Prayer: My cousin was raped yesterday afternoon. She told me about it and somehow or another her parents found out and she told them everything. We spent all evening reporting it, and were at the hospital doing a rape kit until after 1 am. I didn't get home until almost 2 am, and while during the whole thing (even them interviewing my side) I was fine, once I got home and told my mom, everything that happened to me 2 years ago became fresh. (I was raped by a boyfriend, I told him no but he kept going - after that I shut out my thoughts and decided I didn't care. Parents found out, dad and step-mom said they'd believe me no matter what, went to hospital and got examined - but I didn't make a report and didn't want to. He sent every online conversation we had to my mom - the ones where I told him I loved him and all that jazz because I was in "please him" mode so she told my sister who told my dad who informed his wife and now no one believes me for what happened. Not to mention I snuck him in the house so right there just made it worse.) My cousin met this guy on a dating site and got in his truck to talk. Her parents are very stern, and even though they didn't like that she had met him, got in his truck, or met on a dating site - they still love and support her and took care of her and believe her. I'm so glad that they reacted that way, and know she learned her lesson on meeting guys. I told my mom and she immediately said, "Well SHE shouldn't have met the guy in the first place and SHE shouldn't have gotten in his truck. I'm surprised they reacted like they did." I tried explaining that they love her and know she's going through a tramatic time and that she learned her lesson but all my mom could say was, "Well SHE shouldn't have done.... (this, that, the other.) It broke my heart that my mom could react that way.
I'm making sure to be there when my cousin needs me, as I've been through this twice and we're really close. She is doing well considering, and is coming over today to hang out and get away. The detective that got my recorded statement needs a picture of every text message my cousin and I exchanged before I went to get her, and it's only by the grace of God that I kept them as I normally delete my texts every few hours. They have the guy in custody for 48 hours as of last night. He's in the military though and goes back to Iraq May 2nd. He told her to pull into a certain section of the parking lot and when she did, he pulled in right next to her which she thought was odd. Later, they caught him on tape pulling in the lot, but the camera can't see him. So he's leaving in 6 days and camera can't get him, ok. He tried to kiss her twice, both times she said no and he asked why she wasn't attracted to him. She just wanted to be friends and didn't know what to say so she told him she wasn't in the mood. He forced himself on her, kissing her and apparently playing with himself (although she didn't know that at the time and was just praying the kiss would end). Before she knew it, he pulled out his privates, pulled her running pants down, and was forcing himself in her painfully. She pushed up on his hips/sides trying to get him off but he forced himself in at the same time and actually came in her. After it happened he said, "Oops, sorry..... Just go get a Plan B." A Plan B? She didn't know what it was and asked him and he said he'd pay for it, he got one for a girl this happened with before. She just said she had to go and he text her when she left and he said, "If it makes you feel any better, I'm 100% clean." Um, no that doesn't really make her feel any better. They took him in custody and took his clothing hoping he didn't change before they got there. They also took his truck and asked if they could search in it and he refused, so they have to get a warrant. Also, within an hour of being arrested he called JAG and they told him not to say anything. When my cousin asked him how he spelled his last name, he lied - changing an i to an e so the police had a harder time finding him. I found him online after searching for his number, and he popped up under a group where a guy lost his phone and needed numbers. I clicked his page and everything but his name, gender, and where he went to school and that he's in the Army was blocked. I looked at his last name and got the correct spelling thankfully, only by the grace of God. He's looking pretty guilty at this point and we're praying for justice and cooperation, and that God would open his mouth and let the truth flow without the guy being able to stop it. Also peace for my cousin and her parents (as well as myself).
I'll post my little prayers in the prayer post but this was really important.
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