Here's the scoop. My fiancé and I are paying for our own wedding, but we're having a little bit of trouble agreeing on what a "reasonable" budget is. Close family, alone, puts our guest list at around 100 (that's with no kids under 12...we have big families), and while I DO NOT want an opulent wedding, feeding our guests well and making sure they have a good time IS important to me. He, on the other hand, thinks that throwing a good party makes it more about our guests than it is about us. I see his point, but I do not agree. The ceremony is most definitely about us, but the reception is a thank you to those who came to support us, right?

How can I demonstrate to him the importance of a wedding as a whole event. Because it's NOT just about us, these people made us who we are and I would like to thank them for that - with an awesome night of delicious food and amazing music - but I don't want to contstantly fight over WHY we need a photographer (this is a real argument we have had...seriously), or HOW are we going to fit 100 people in your parent's back yard, and WHERE are they all going to park?! HELP!!