Registries?

kbares323 · June 2012

I have been married once beforre but never had a wedding. My FH has never been married. I feel uncomfortable about making a registry because I feel like we have everything we really need and getting things we want is not really an issue. Of course I will have family that would have been invited to the last wedding invited to this one and maybe a couple of friends but obviously his family and his friends will be invited as well as friends we both have made together as a couple. He wants to create a registry. Should we go ahead and make one or would that be a taboo since I have already been married, wedding or not.

LeiselEB · June 2012

I think it's fine to have a registry. There are always things that need upgrading or replacing (towels, sheets, upgraded cookware, etc.)

bonge · June 2012

You could always upgrade some things you have. We have lived together for 5 years but i still found things to put on a registry

peachiejean · June 2012

I agree with PP. I was unsure if we should register because we already lived together for five years. An abundance of family/friends said how much they preferred that we register. When we went to do it I was surprised how much we needed. I highly recommend to do it.

MangoSong · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_registries-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ca23a3db-60fd-4cde-815b-ca8169de38d8Post:ce27dc49-be9d-4bad-97c4-72235083465a">Re: Registries?</a>:
[QUOTE]You could always upgrade some things you have. We have lived together for 5 years but i still found things to put on a registry
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Avion22 · June 2012

If you had a first marriage, then you had a first wedding. Courthouse ceremonies and elopments count as "weddings." It's kind of offensive to people on here who are planning courthouse ceremonies or elopements to imply that those don't count as "weddings." Just a heads up.

You most certainly can register if you are getting married for the second time. Register for things that you need or would like to upgrade. Consider donating old items that you would like to upgrade (like if you really want a new waffle iron, you can donate your old one to good will). It's also okay to register for some non-traditional items like camping gear, board games, tools for home improvement projects, etc. If there truly isn't much you need, then it's fine to have a small registry with only a few items. Most people will realize that you don't need much and will give you money or gift cards.

What's NOT okay is to list registry infomration anywhere in your wedding invitations (though it's okay if a shower host lists info in shower invitations, or to link registry info on your wedding website), or to come out and directly tell people that you would prefer cash (cutesy poems and honeymoon registries are essentially asking for cash).

kbares323 · June 2012

Thanks for the advice. My FH is super excited about getting married. I am too since I actually get to have a wedding and wear a dress this time! I just don't want people to think we are being greedy or wanting them around just for gifts. I want to have fun with this, no matter how far off we are from the actually day

kbares323 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_registries-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ca23a3db-60fd-4cde-815b-ca8169de38d8Post:d5b205c5-2bb4-4ce7-8ae2-3851753c7732">Re: Registries?</a>:
[QUOTE]If you had a first marriage, then you had a first wedding. Courthouse ceremonies and elopments count as "weddings." It's kind of offensive to people on here who are planning courthouse ceremonies or elopements to imply that those don't count as "weddings." Just a heads up. You most certainly can register if you are getting married for the second time. Register for things that you need or would like to upgrade. Consider donating old items that you would like to upgrade (like if you really want a new waffle iron, you can donate your old one to good will). It's also okay to register for some non-traditional items like camping gear, board games, tools for home improvement projects, etc. If there truly isn't much you need, then it's fine to have a small registry with only a few items. Most people will realize that you don't need much and will give you money or gift cards. What's NOT okay is to list registry infomration anywhere in your wedding invitations (though it's okay if a shower host lists info in shower invitations, or to link registry info on your wedding website), or to come out and directly tell people that you would prefer cash (cutesy poems and honeymoon registries are essentially asking for cash).
Posted by Avion22[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I feel bad for that and so sorry that was implied, no matter if I ment it. I just had a wedding planned out the first time and the ex pulled the plug telling me it cost him money and time that really would add up to nothing we could gain. How pleasent of him. </div><div>
</div><div>I never thought of a honeymoon registry but I think camping things and other non tradiontional items would be perfect. My FH would probably do backflips when I tell him that. I already knew I didn't want to list a registry on our wedding invites. I personally feel that would be tacky of us and if I feel it is tacky then I think others may feel the same. This helps A LOT!! Thank you so much!

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Avion22 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_registries-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ca23a3db-60fd-4cde-815b-ca8169de38d8Post:f57ce1fb-622b-4004-bab3-9402e1d53996">Re: Registries?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Registries? : <strong>I feel bad for that and so sorry that was implied, no matter if I ment it.</strong> I just had a wedding planned out the first time and the ex pulled the plug telling me it cost him money and time that really would add up to nothing we could gain. How pleasent of him. I never thought of a honeymoon registry but I think camping things and other non tradiontional items would be perfect. My FH would probably do backflips when I tell him that. I already knew I didn't want to list a registry on our wedding invites. I personally feel that would be tacky of us and if I feel it is tacky then I think others may feel the same. This helps A LOT!! Thank you so much!
Posted by kbares323[/QUOTE]

<div>No worries:-) </div>

tpender13 · June 2012

I had a cousin who got married and had a really small registry at Target, and another one at REI where they had a ton of camping and hiking stuff. Their first "date" was actually a weekend long camping trip in a remote area with a group of people, and they planned essentially that same trip on their own for their honeymoon. It was cool getting them fun things that we knew they'd use right away. Perhaps you could do registries like that.

MeagMcNamara · June 2012

My fiance and I picked a registry that had a lot of good tools for him to 'build his tool collection' which was a-ok by me!

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