Friday confessions

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• acwm member

  

  May 2011

  Ugh, Miz, I'd have trouble holding my tongue around someone like that.

  
  

  My confession is that while I LOVE FI's family so much, I am a little overwhelmed by them. I'm from a pretty small, quiet family-- he is one of 6 kids and they are a really fun, boisterous group. BUT this weekend they are all coming into town (we live in FI's hometown; 3 of the kids live here, 3 live out of town). So this weekend there will be 26 immediate family members in town. That's an overwhelming weekend for me as is. And I think we'll be hosting at least 4 of them in our house. Which I just found out today. I had better have some serious help from FI cleaning the house....

  

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• undyingmizery

  

  May 2011

  acwm- I totally understand I have very few friends and a very tiny family so when we do weekends with ILs I get a little freaked out lol. I am still trying to get used to it. He has a HUGE family and mine is tiny. I have 2-3 very close friends he has A LOT lol.

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• LucysMama8512 member

  

  May 2011

  My confession is that I wish I hadn't committed myself to so many activities this weekend, because I now don't really want to do some of them.  One I have to do, my FI and dad's birthday were in the last week so we are having a family dinner.  For the longest time my sister hasn't been involved in our immediate family.  Now for the last year she has changed her mind.  I'm a little peeved, I'm so used to it just being the 4 of us (including FI).  It's just that her children are not disciplined, and I have a hard time biting my tongue.
  
  Also FI has been working nights all week and will continue through this weekend. I really miss him

  
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• acwm member

  

  May 2011

  It's so overwhelming, right? And even though we've lived together for almost a year and this is very much "our" house and not "my" house, I always feel like I'm the one who will be judged on the cleanliness of our house. So there's stress to present the house well and to be a good host, and the stress of being around all. those. people.

  
  

  I'm glad you can relate! Sometimes I feel so alien in these situations... glad it's not just me!

  

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• toribee21 member

  

  May 2011

  I confess I'm soo happy I'm not the only one who gets overwhelmed by their FIL's! Mine are coming over tomorrow for a cookout so I feel your pain miz and acwm!

  
  

  FI's family is big and very close-knit. They always have at least four houses they "have" to visit for holidays and poor FMIL never gets time to relax because she's busy trying to live up to the expectations her parents and in-laws put on her. FMIL's parents tag along to everything (example: they invited themselves to be there when FI & I moved, both times) so I think that's why she feels entitled to being hyper-involved in FI's life. I mean, they're amazing people and I love them, but we see them every. single. weekend. And I always feel the pressure to cook and clean and make sure everything's presentable because in his family, that's the woman's role. They are literally the polar opposite of my family. *sigh*

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• BMBrinson member

  

  May 2011

  My FI family is smaller than mine but they are way louder and want to be in your buisness. I'm not used to it.....they send me wedding planning emails! They are great people but some space would be ok with me. I get to spend most of next week with them because my FI is graduating from medical school next weekend. But on a good note one of my best friends and bridesmaid is coming up tomorrow!

  

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• fishinflagrl

  

  May 2011

  I confess that I did not go to workout everyday this week, and I have been eating pretty bad. This weekend is going to be worse since it is Memorial Day Weekend, aand my bday is Monday. Lots of boat, alchy, and food time. =/  I hope I dont gain too much back, or I can control myself.
  

  

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• magpie87

  

  May 2011

  I confess that I don't like spending time with my FI's family as much as I used to. When I had to go over there to visit him, I didn't mind spending time there, but I've found that since we moved into our apartment, I find that I have to talk myself into going out there.
  

  

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• RockerBride89 member

  

  May 2011 edited May 2011

  I can totally relate to being overwhelmed by the future family in-law!  I have a small quiet family, and he comes from a large, rather loud family.  I have to admit, sometimes I get annoyed with how loud and obnoxious some members of his family are.  It's like they try to see who can be the loudest and most obnoxious to get the most attention, and I just like my peace and quiet. Ugh.  I love his family, but when I'm at their home sometimes I feel suffocated by all of the crazyness!

  

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