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MOH=Drama!

So I'm trying to decide who will be my MOH. I have a twin sister and then a younger sister who's a little less than 2 years younger than me. My twin and I have never gotten along very well and the last few months especially I've gotten really close with my younger sister. Well my twin asked me if she was going to my MOH and that she understands if she's not and that's totally fine. I told her I was thinking of asking my younger sister and explained why and she FLIPPED! She said that would really hurt her feelings. There's already alot of family drama about me getting married, my parents and twin are against it but his family is happy for us. I don't want to deal with her manipulating ways when I'm getting ready for this, but I know I can't count on her to be there for me. Then she tells me my younger sister talks about how dumb I am behind my back, I think she's just stirring up trouble but it's stressing me out!

Re: MOH=Drama!

  • edited December 2011
    Honestly, I would tell her "tough noodles" as her reaction is exactly why you don't want her to be your MoH. :P

    (Seriously, I am in love with that phrase now)
  • edited December 2011
    You need to pick someone as your MOH who you can trust. You don't want to be dealing with crap like this when you're trying to plan your wedding. At the end of the day it's your wedding and your choice. She will get over it. And I would tell her if she plans on being a part of the process at all she better grow up and stop trying to create problems.
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_mohdrama?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:754f79c8-48be-4899-be98-b8de4ea945efPost:edb82619-34f2-4a67-b4cd-e9c5b8d1f1d9">Re: MOH=Drama!</a>:
    [QUOTE]You need to pick someone as your MOH who you can trust. You don't want to be dealing with crap like this when you're trying to plan your wedding. At the end of the day it's your wedding and your choice. She will get over it. And I would tell her if she plans on being a part of the process at all she better grow up and stop trying to create problems.
    Posted by NMac2010[/QUOTE]

    I will second all of this.
  • dianaslikdianaslik member
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    edited December 2011
    As much as this situation sucks, I think PP are right.

    Why would she expect you to select her as your MOH if she doesn't support the wedding? 
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_mohdrama?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:754f79c8-48be-4899-be98-b8de4ea945efPost:834c7f73-aa4e-49da-b05a-f22c07cdf5bc">Re: MOH=Drama!</a>:
    [QUOTE]As much as this situation sucks, I think PP are right.<strong> Why would she expect you to select her as your MOH if she doesn't support the wedding? 
    </strong>Posted by dianaslik[/QUOTE]

    My same thoughts! I would say go with your little sister. If that's what you want.
  • edited December 2011
    The bottom line is you need to do what's best for you.   Like Natalie said, you need someone you can trust to be there for you and not cause you extra drama.


  • edited December 2011
    You could also just make both of them bridesmaids and don't designate a MOH.  That way no one is singled out and it may be something both sisters could live with. 
  • edited December 2011
    I want to do something special for my little sister because she's been there for through alot of hard times when the rest of my family was against me. At this point I don't really want my twin to be a BM, I'm just so frustrated with her. My family (other than my little sister) is saying that if I don't choose my twin that's a slap inn the face for her, but I think everyone should understand that we don't have a good relationship.
  • edited December 2011
    She kind of deserves a slap in the face at this point.   PPs are right.  If she isn't going to stand beside you and support you in this, she has no right being there.  Go with wo you want and feel has your back.
  • bethlovesjimbethlovesjim member
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    edited December 2011
    When I couldn't decide between my two BFFs (yep, I just used BFF, and I'm 28, lol)  I asked them both to be my Co-MOH's (that's really what we call them).   They are both SO different, and together they will do a great job doing whatever it is a MOH does. 
    I took them both to brunch and asked them together at the same time.  Its working out perfectly, I think.
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  • juliebug1997juliebug1997 member
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    edited December 2011
    Can I make a suggestion?  You don't have to have any attendants if you don't want.  I have a friend that didn't have any of that at her wedding and it worked out just fine.  You just need someone to be witnesses and that can be just kind of anyone.
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