So one of the things we decided to do for our destination wedding in Hawaii was offer to pay for the lodging costs of our wedding party. We DID actually do research - on Kauai, Maui and Oahu - and we found options that we thought would work. So I went out and talked to my three girls, and FI talked to his two guys, and they were all surprised and thrilled - the outcome we wanted. Yay!Well, last night we sat down with the actual numbers we need to accommodate (5 couples including us, plus a single), and added in what we want - a house on Maui that will accommodate everyone and where we can come back to after the wedding and dinner to dance and hang out. After looking at what is available, we learned another HUGE lesson:Before you offer (or in our case tell people you're thinking about offering) something, be ABSOLUTELY CERTAIN that you can offer it to everyone you're considering.Because while there are houses on Kauai and Oahu that would fit us, none of the houses on Maui that are within our budget fit 11 - they all max out at 10. Ugh. If we'd just asked one less couple we'd be fine. At this point, I don't want to tell one couple that we can't fit them. We told them all that nothing is final, but on FI's side his GM are really close friends, and on my side, my BMs are all three really close friends, and we've already told them about our (not final) plan! There's no easy way to pick from among them.So we're looking at one house that fits 10 to see if maybe they'll let us add one. And we're looking at a small inn that has 6 units, and hoping they'll let us invite outside guests to join us after the wedding. This may still work.But what a headache! I'm sure this won't be the last "if only" and we'll get it figured out in the end, but it would have been much easier if we'd just been more certain before telling everyone our plan.Carrie