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Different styles or one for everyone???

posted at 2/6/2012 7:32 PM EST on theknot.com

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I love the idea of allowing my girls to choose from three or four dresses I'll pick out ahead of time. I have had some people give me weird looks when I tell them this though!
Obviously I'm going to pick out dresses that look nice together (same style skirt)... any thoughts from other brides and/or maids??

Thanks in advance!

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posted at 2/6/2012 7:35 PM EST on theknot.com

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I think if they're the same color and length with different necklines, it can work.

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posted at 2/6/2012 7:49 PM EST on theknot.com

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My BM all had different styles but same color and length. I prefer the individual look more than the matchy-matchy look.

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I prefer more individuality rather than clones.

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Re: Different styles or one for everyone???

posted at 2/6/2012 11:00 PM EST on theknot.com

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This is a great idea! As long as you've discussed privately how much they each are willing to spend, and the dresses you choose are within that budget. I was in a wedding where the bride asked me to order my $240 dress (I was a poor college student!) 9 months early and sent me a link to the one I was supposed to buy. What you've said is much more considerate!

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posted at 2/7/2012 9:24 AM EST on theknot.com

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I've seen very beautiful weddings where all the bridesmaids were in completely different dresses in completely different colors (a great way to incorporate several complementary wedding colors). Same level of formality is really the only thing that's important. What you're describing is fine.

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posted at 2/7/2012 1:19 PM EST on theknot.com

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This is becoming pretty common and looks great. My sister did this for her wedding, she gave us the designer, line, and color and we each chose our own dresses from there. Just make sure that the designer you pick has options in each of your girls' budgets (which you should ask them each individually prior to selecting anything).

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Mine picked out all their own and they looked fantastic! A couple of them picked the same one but it looks diff on their diff body types... I liked it because the color/length still gives everyone a cohesive look but the diff styles meant that everyone wore a dress that flattered them!

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posted at 2/7/2012 10:41 PM EST on theknot.com

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I did this for my BMs, and it has worked out wonderfully. They all know what flatters them best and by letting them choose, they will 100% geniunely pick a dress they like (not just telling you they like the one you picked to spare your feelings) and will wear again. It also helps with costs, because dresses can range. My BMs ranged from $90ish to $200+. I didn't worry about anything besides length (knee) and color (Petunia). Some brides do stick to one fabric, such as chiffon OR satin, but I didn't care. The color may look a little different, but whatever. I also didn't care about skirts, necklines, etc.

One of my BMs is also getting married and did not give us this option. She chose a dress that I will never probably wear again because it is very formal looking and I don't care for the color. It was also $175. Not that I can't afford this, but I just sort of hated how it was at the very top of my budget ($200ish including alterations). I'm just biased because I like options.

Some may tell you that letting your BMs pick can turn into a trainwreck. I say this mainly happens when you as the bride tell the BMs you must "approve" their dress choices. Give them your parameters along with the formality of your wedding, and be done with it. Don't micromanage and say no beading, no sashes (unless you want your MOH to stand out with a sash) no one shoulders, no this, no that...

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posted at 2/8/2012 6:01 PM EST on theknot.com

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Firstly I gave them option of David's Bridal or a convertible dress, as two of them are still in college they opted for DB as it was cheaper. We then went shopping, I just told them knee length and color, and they just happened to all pick the same one.

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I gave my 4 BM's 7 choices and asked they all pick something different. They are the same color, fabric and length. I think their personalities will come through better!

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Re: Different styles or one for everyone???

posted at 2/9/2012 8:46 PM EST on theknot.com

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I have to say - thank you SO MUCH for your input. I am going with my gut. I've picked out 4 dresses (same length and color) and will let them choose from there! I do agree it will let their individual personalities shine, and I'm not a fan of the super-matchy look either.

Again, thank you ladies for the support!

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