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Re: *Kinda long* $$$ issue
posted at 2/8/2012 11:35 AM EST
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In Response to *Kinda long* $$$ issue:
I wasn't sure where to post this, but I usually see good advice here so here it is. In the beginning when we were starting to get venues picked out, I had suggested to my parents, my FI and my FI's parents that if we pitched in an X amount of dollars (ex: we each pitch in $500) then we could afford a decent wedding and no one would be going too far out. My parents had already said they would help us, and my FI's parents said they would have to see, but if we needed anything to ask. Well, now my FI is kinda freaking out because he thinks my parents aren't going to be able to help much, even though I've told him they are helping. To me, money is a touchy issue and one that I hate discussing but I promised him I would ask my parents a realistic view on what they wanted to help pay so we know how much would be left to pay. So far, they put the deposit down on our reception venue and we put the deposit down on our caterer/cake/florist (she's an all in one) and it's perfectly even right now. My mom wants to help pay for my dress, but right now I'm making the payments and already deciding to pay for all of it if she realizes they can't afford to later on. What I asked my FI is if it would be possible for him to ask his parents for some help. I know they know tradition (Groom's parents pay for the rehersal dinner), but I don't know if this would be a bad idea to ask for a little help. Even though I gave the idea to his parents before, I told him it would probably be better for him to ask rather than me, since I'm just the FDIL. Would this be a bad idea? Side note: I know money comes with strings and I've already done what my parents wanted, which all they wanted was a nice dinner by a caterer. Another side note: My idea was told months ago (around back in August), and his parents can be forgetful as can mine, so the possiblity that FI's parents just forgot about the idea is very possible.
Posted by jak554
Promises don't pay the caterer. Don't spend cash that isn't in your hand.
And anybody can pay for the RD. Like you and your FI, for instance. In fact, you and your FI could pay for your own wedding.
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