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Way to honor a best man and maid of honor at reception if not having a ceremony???

posted at 2/10/2012 7:35 AM EST on theknot.com

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We have decided to elope and only our parents and siblings will be in attendance for the ceremony. Originally we were inviting all our friends and were going to have a best man and maid of honor. We are having a reception the weekend after we are married. I have talked to the would be best man and maid of honor and they are totally cool with it. But I would like some ideas of how to make them stand out or feel special during our reception party. Any ideas?

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The best man and maid of honor don't really have roles outside of the ceremony, so I'm not sure how you could highlight them. Maybe have a sweetheart table with you two and the both of them (with their significan't others too, if they have them).

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My friend had an AHR after a DW and had the DJ introduce her bridal party, but they went to the DW with them. Still, it might be nice to acknowledge them in a toast. You don't have to announce that they're the BM and MOH, just say a few kind words to thank them for their support.

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Usually the BM and MOH make a toast in the couple's honor at the reception.

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We have decided to elope and only our parents and siblings will be in attendance for the ceremony. Originally we were inviting all our friends and were going to have a best man and maid of honor. We are having a reception the weekend after we are married. I have talked to the would be best man and maid of honor and they are totally cool with it. But I would like some ideas of how to make them stand out or feel special during our reception party. Any ideas?
Posted by ds12

Sorry, but you are not eloping. Eloping is when the two of you, along with a witness or two, go to the courthouse or JOP without anyone knowing in advance. My Grandmother eloped by climbing out the window of her bedroom and jumping into Grandpa's car. They drove to the next county and got married. Grandpa's brother came along as a witness.
What you are doing is called a private ceremony. Your relatives all know about it, and your immediate family will be in attendance.
I would propose a toast to your good friends, and thank them for their willingness to support you in your wedding plans.
About your reception, you shouldn't do day-of-wedding stuff like "first dance". bouquet toss, wearing pouffy white wedding dress. Most other things are fine.

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Still, it might be nice to acknowledge them in a toast. You don't have to announce that they're the BM and MOH, just say a few kind words to thank them for their support.
Posted by Ali092011

I agree with this, actually. My husband and I had a teeny destination wedding followed by a much larger AHR. My dad and my husband's brother said a few words and them my husband and I said a large thank you to everyone. We appreciated everyone coming so much, this wasn't our wedding but a large party, and we wanted everyone to know how happy we were that they were all there. We highlighted lots of people who had lots of good things going on and made the AHR a big family celebration.

If you choose to do a thank you speech, mention your MOH and BM in there.

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posted at 2/12/2012 3:26 PM EST on theknot.com

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The BM and MOH should not be asked to make a toast. Traditionally they do - but these are speeches in the couple's honor, so the couple should NEVER direct it. ("Be sure to stand up in front of my guests and tell everyone how wonderful we are").

Frankly, having a wedding party for a reception only is pointless. There is nothing for them to do after the ceremony is done. It won't matter to the guests unless they already know Joe and Sue, because they'll never see them again.

How about making a special toast to them, and tell them what their friendship has meant to you?

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