Where I come from everyone expects a traditional wedding. The sister is the maid of honor, the dad walks his daughter to the aisle, there's always something borrowed and something blue. Lol. In my situation my sister is yes supportive of who I marry, but she isn't the ideal person for helping me plan my weddding which is usually what the maid of honor does. I would rather my best friend Sarah be the maid of honor. My sister caught wind of this and was furious. She admitted though later down the road that she would be the jealous type. She always has been jealous of me, but we all have our flaws. But I'm afraid she'll try to take over, because she all ready one day told me that she knows what she wants to wear. I feel that Sarah and me would have more fun and that she would be more supportive in helping me get things done.

Even if I kept my sister as my maid of honor, would it be all right in your opinion to have Sarah help most with the planning?

First, I have to say, I totally get where you're coming from. Though I think you should explain to your fiance what's going on and how he's going to have to help (it's good practice for marriage too), and I think what you mean by having your MOH help plan is not necessarily plan, but have someone to bounce ideas off of or hand over a few small tasks (so people freaking out about that comment, I think everyone's idea of "help plan" can vary, so I'm not going to bother with arguing that. Even if you did mean actually plan, whatever you need help with, just express that to those who you want to be helping you so they know what's expected of them). Anyways, to my point, my sister is my MOH and bless her heart I lover her and everything, but yeah as MOH, the wedding enthusiasm just isn't there.  She wanted to pick her own dress, her own hairstyle, jewelry, etc. and then when I ask her opinion on something, she has no time or doesn't care/"it doesn't matter". Even something small, like open the email, look at the picture, then pick one. So I totally get it. Yes, it sucks, but here's an example of what I did: I went so far as to tell my best friend (other bridesmaid) that she's my secret maid of honor. We laughed a bit and of course she knows how my sister is and that it's important for my sister to be actual MOH, so with our relationship, and with my sister's, that worked for us. I have been able to get my mom to harass her into helping with things that need helping, and for the fun stuff, I bring around my "secret" MOH. She has a blast, my sister doesn't care anyways, so we all win. It sounds horrible, I know! But only you know how your relationship is with each person, and you'll know how to handle it. There's no rule that says your MOH has to have final word on choices you make through the planning process, so frankly you can have fun with the other girls, and just let her get MOH title on paper. The key is to not expect anything from her, accept it at face value, love her as your sister, then love your friends for who they are too. It'll all come together, trust me. I planned my wedding myself, of course with lots of help from my fiance, but my MOH essentially did nothing and once I accepted that was how it was going to be, things went smoothly. I invited my best friend to cake tastings, dress shopping, etc. and the planning process was a blast. There's other options too, like not having an MOH, establishing MOH and then some other secondary honor for the bridesmaid that helps the most, etc. You'll find what works for you. And don't worry about it, there are plenty of MOH horror stories... reading those always made me feel just a little better :)