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Uniquely Us... Ideas on Personal and Meaningful Vows
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A Place for Ideas This is my first post to The Knot, but I wanted to have a place for us ladies to get interesting and less traditional ideas for how to approach vow-writing. I'll kick it off with wh
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Uniquely Us... Ideas on Personal and Meaningful Vows
Share your vows here to create an easy reference vow library for other Knotties.
A Place for Ideas This is my first post to The Knot, but I wanted to have a place for us ladies to get interesting and less traditional ideas for how to approach vow-writing. I'll kick it off with wh
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Uniquely Us... Ideas on Personal and Meaningful Vows
posted at 1/24/2012 2:30 PM EST
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A Place for Ideas
This is my first post to The Knot, but I wanted to have a place for us ladies to get interesting and less traditional ideas for how to approach vow-writing. I'll kick it off with what my fiance and I are doing, but I would love to hear other fun ideas so that anyone who feels stuck has a resource:
The Dilemma
Matt and I, like many of you, are all about communication and doing what it takes to make each other happy every day. We talked about vows and immediately opted for writing our own. But the question came up: How do we know that what we're promising each other is what'll count in the long-run?
The Solution
We're each coming up with a list of the 10 things (big or small) the other person does for us that means the most. Whether it's how supportive he was of me when I was going through college, or the way I always remember to pick up his favortie candy on my way home from work. We're then going to give the lists to each other and - in order to keep it a surprise - pick 5 to promise to always do for one another on our wedding day.
That's mine... what's your unqiue idea??
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Re: Uniquely Us... Ideas on Personal and Meaningful Vows
posted at 1/24/2012 3:24 PM EST
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The most traditional foundation for vows encapsulates stuff that generally spans time and circumstance -- to love and cherish, for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, in good times, and in bad. If buying candy as a surprise on the way home is one manifestation of that, it's fine to include, but I think you'll want to tie it to something bigger, maybe something like "being mindful of your passions and interests, and encouraging them -- such as your love for Gummy Bears and surprising you with a bag when I can." I think adding those examples can really help to personalize while not losing the bigger picture.
I personally vowed a little higher level than just the small things we do day to day for each other. We didn't really have any specific starting point, but I think to some extent, the actual words we said on our wedding day are just a foundation of the behavior we expect to model throughout our life. If something different is required to make the marriage work, it's not like we won't do it because it wasn't explicitly included in our vows.
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Re: Uniquely Us... Ideas on Personal and Meaningful Vows
posted at 2/26/2012 10:56 PM EST
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A few weeks ago I went to go see the movie the vow with channing tatum and rachel mcadams although it was a very wonderful movie it had a huge impact upon my fiance and myself. Not only in the movie were they vowing to fiercely love eachother through thick and then but they were also vowing to agree to disagree on red velvet cake. :)
Tonight as I started writing my vows that I will say on October 19,2013 to the man of my dreams who I don't want to live a day without I thought about this movie and how important the vows actually are. Not just something small like agreeing to go on the first date was but now it's spending your whole LIFE with the other person.
I had no problems writing my vows, however our unique idea for when we do say them is instead of the traditional I do , its going to be I promise. We have been together since I was 15 and promises have meant so much to him and I so we are promising ourselves to eachother instead of doing . Sounds kinda morbid and unhappy when you think of the word do. In my opinoin.
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Re: Uniquely Us... Ideas on Personal and Meaningful Vows
posted at 3/2/2012 9:10 PM EST
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I tend to think more broad, overarching themes make better vows.
I saw a YouTube video of a wedding yesterday that had amazing vows and I think I'd like to base mine around them (although with 491 days to go, I might change my mind). They were a series of promises they each made, they were personal (ie I promise to encourage your...because it makes you...), but covered a lot of really big stuff (partnership, trust, love, joys, challenges, etc).
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Re: Uniquely Us... Ideas on Personal and Meaningful Vows
posted at 3/15/2012 1:33 PM EDT
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Emcruz,
I agree with you that personal vows are the way to go, but I mixed them in with the whoel overarching promise thing. Here are my vows:
George, I promise to love you for the rest of my life without reservation.
I promise to treat you with kindness, respect, appreciation and silliness.
I promise to respect your independence.
In poor times I promise to do everything to make our love rich, and in wealth to never let our love grow poor.
I promise to make you laugh when you need it, and to be serious when you don’t.
I promise to not leave lights on in our home, and to put my glasses on the nightstand where they go.
I promise to make you root beer short ribs every year on your birthday.
I promise to grow really, really, really old with you, and to love you more with every “really.”
You will always be the best part of my day, and I am proud to marry you. I say these vows to you in front of our friends and family, so that we all hear together... when the mountains crumble to the sea, there will still be you and me.
Thank you for marrying me.
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Re: Uniquely Us... Ideas on Personal and Meaningful Vows
posted at 4/2/2012 3:31 PM EDT
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In Response to Re: Uniquely Us... Ideas on Personal and Meaningful Vows:
Emcruz, I agree with you that personal vows are the way to go, but I mixed them in with the whoel overarching promise thing. Here are my vows: George, I promise to love you for the rest of my life without reservation. I promise to treat you with kindness, respect, appreciation and silliness. I promise to respect your independence. In poor times I promise to do everything to make our love rich, and in wealth to never let our love grow poor. I promise to make you laugh when you need it, and to be serious when you don’t. I promise to not leave lights on in our home, and to put my glasses on the nightstand where they go. I promise to make you root beer short ribs every year on your birthday. I promise to grow really, really, really old with you, and to love you more with every “really.” You will always be the best part of my day, and I am proud to marry you. I say these vows to you in front of our friends and family, so that we all hear together... when the mountains crumble to the sea, there will still be you and me. Thank you for marrying me.
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I love these. :)
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Re: Uniquely Us... Ideas on Personal and Meaningful Vows
posted at 4/3/2012 4:23 PM EDT
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These are all great ideas!! I think ours will incorporate a range of the big and little things. The little things can mean so much when promised with understanding and humor just as the big things mean assuredness that we promise to treasure and respect one another as we grow together.
Being high school sweethearts (8 years and loving it!), support of one another's goals has always meant the world to us. On the other-hand, it's the little things like the way I rub his hands and he rubs my feet every night that's kept us connected and strong for so long. For us, it's all about the balance :-)
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