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Getting really fustrated!

posted at 2/7/2012 10:05 PM EST on theknot.com

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When my FI and i got engaged his parent said that they would help pay by paying 50%. Well...now that we are planing and having to pay for things the only thing theyve offered to pay for is the bar, which i don't even want!!! I have a 9 month old and babies are expensive! I'm also on maternity leave and FI doesn't make good money either. We coupld really use the help but i guess we'll be doing on our own :( Or should i say, i guess i'll be paying for it all! GAH!!

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Re: Getting really fustrated!

posted at 2/7/2012 10:09 PM EST on theknot.com

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I'm sorry it seems they went back on their promise to pay.

Look at it this way, you/FI pay = you/FI decide everything.

I'm sure there are areas you can cut back to save and plan the wedding you two can afford on your own.

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Re: Getting really fustrated!

posted at 2/7/2012 10:29 PM EST on theknot.com

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I agree that it sucks and they shouldn't have made empty promises, but there isn't really a lot you can do about it at this point. Sadly enough it happens, especially with weddings. Never count on promised money 100% until it is in your hand. And like PP said, if you're paying, you can completely call all of the shots and you don't have to fight with anyone about whose money goes where.

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Re: Getting really fustrated!

posted at 2/8/2012 12:20 AM EST on theknot.com

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You can have a lovely wedding without spending a lot of money. Have an afternoon ceremony followed by a cake and punch reception. That is very traditional. You can have it at home, in a city park, or a church, if you are religious. My sister was married in a borrowed dress (Nobody knew or cared!) at a city park shelter. She served picnic food and sheet cake, with a cooler of beer and soda. No dancing. Everyone had a great time! My husband took the photos with his fancy camera. It can be done.
With a baby to care for, you are right in putting other priorities before a fancy expensive wedding. You'll be just fine!

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Re: Getting really fustrated!

posted at 2/8/2012 1:02 AM EST on theknot.com

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Can you take up a part time job to earn some extra cash?

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Re: Getting really fustrated!

posted at 2/8/2012 8:54 AM EST on theknot.com

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I have no real advice to offer than I would be frustrated too if someone went back on their promise or word.

You're on maternity leave with a 9-month old? Please tell me how you managed that. ;)

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posted at 2/8/2012 9:09 AM EST on theknot.com

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There is absolutely nothing wrong with asking for a clarification here. It's not asking for money it is asking for the definition of the intent of what was volunteered.

As a MOB, I get so ticked when brides post about parents backing out after contracts are signed and deposits are paid.

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Re: Getting really fustrated!

posted at 2/8/2012 11:12 AM EST on theknot.com

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You have a baby. Forget the wedding and take care of your family.

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posted at 2/8/2012 11:46 AM EST on theknot.com

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I You're on maternity leave with a 9-month old? Please tell me how you managed that. ;)
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i live in ontario canada. you get a year here

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Re: Getting really fustrated!

posted at 2/8/2012 12:14 PM EST on theknot.com

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First of all, wow to the year off! LOL.

You might want to check out the budget weddings board. Everyone there has really great ideas and advice. There are a lot of ways to have a wedding on a tight budget, you just have to keep your cool with sticker shock and think creatively :)

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posted at 2/8/2012 4:13 PM EST on theknot.com

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Exactly! I definitely think there's some additional communication needed.

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Since they offered money there is nothing wrong with your FI sitting down with them and chatting about this. He just needs to politely ask them to clarify (if they haven't already) what their intention is. If they are still paying for half then they may be completely clueless as to how early you have to pay for things. If they have decided to only pay for alcohol, then thank them and be done. There is absolutely nothing wrong with asking for a clarification here. It's not asking for money it is asking for the definition of the intent of what was volunteered. As a MOB, I get so ticked when brides post about parents backing out after contracts are signed and deposits are paid.
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posted at 2/8/2012 4:16 PM EST on theknot.com

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In Response to Re: Getting really fustrated!:

First of all, wow to the year off! LOL. You might want to check out the budget weddings board. Everyone there has really great ideas and advice. There are a lot of ways to have a wedding on a tight budget, you just have to keep your cool with sticker shock and think creatively :)
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This is the budget wedding board.

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Re: Getting really fustrated!

posted at 2/9/2012 7:36 PM EST on theknot.com

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You have a baby. Forget the wedding and take care of your family.
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That's mean. Just because she has a family doesn't mean that she can't have a wedding. OP, I hope everything works out well and situations can be resolved in a family friendly way.

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Re: Getting really fustrated!

posted at 2/13/2012 4:22 PM EST on theknot.com

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It is possible to pay for a wedding on your own. Figure out what your realistic budget is and what you want to concentrate on with it. Pick the few things that are important to you and cut the rest or do them as simply and cheaply as you can.

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