How are you honoring a deceased loved one?

sueblue29 · January 2010

My father passed nearly 17 years ago and I need advice how to honor him at our wedding without making it feel like a memorial/funeral... any suggestions. I do like the idea of placing his picture in a small charm around my bouquet... what else can you suggest?

Ihaveapanda · January 2010

My father died 5 years ago and at the bottom of my program I'm just putting something like "Let us remember those who could not join us today" then listing my father and FI's grandmother.

Also in my program I'm putting "In honor of Emily's father, (name) will be walking her down the aisle." to make it clear to FI's family who does not know me well that it's not my dad.

notagirlikeme · January 2010

A friend of mine is buying long single stemmed white roses and putting them on chairs where they would have been seated for the wedding.

Ashly018 · January 2010

I will be having a digital picture frame with a rotating pictures of each of our deceased loved ones, and then next to it will be a picture frame that says In Memory of: and then their names listed. I'm planning to have that in the entry way of the reception near the guest book. I haven't decided if I want to have a candle or not....

kmurr010 · January 2010

My great grandmother was a very big part of my life growing up and passed away just over 10 years ago. We picked our wedding date to be her birthday, and I will make a note in the program about those who can not be with us. My fiance's uncle just passed away 3 months ago, so we will also note him in the program. I really like the idea of a small picture frame on the bouqet and have considered doing that for my great grandma.

526SadieSadie · January 2010

I love all of these ideas, especially the picture attached to the bouquet (just make sure you take that off before you toss it!!)
Dan and I both have many many relatives that have passed and rather than name names, we're putting sprigs of rosemary in our centerpieces, rosemary traditionally represents remembrance. I'm tying a small card to each centerpiece with this:

"there's rosemary, that's for remembrance, pray love, remember"
_ophelia, hamlet act 4 scene 5

The rosemary in our floral arrangements serves as a symbol of remembrance of members of our families who are here only in spirit. We love you all and miss you everyday. ~D&G

camo_princess · January 2010

My grandmother was like my second mom and I have always had a yellow rose when I was doing something important like graduation, milestone birthdays, etc. So for our wedding we are haveing the bridesmaids bring in a yellow rose along with their bouquets and they will lay them on the chair where she would have been sitted. I tell you having a wedding without my nana is hard, but still know that they are looking down smiling that we are happy!!!!

amberlynned · January 2010

We are planning to have lit candles with their names on them on the guestbook table.

My uncle did a candle lighting during the speeches at the recption and after they were done people were crying and not ready to eat cake and dance... i would not reccommend drawing too much attention to the losses....

I also like the rosemary idea and the digital frame

wlm85 · January 2010

We're having my aunt and his uncle walk down the aisle together before the bridesmaid come out carrying roses for our loved ones. My aunt will carry three roses (one each for my grandmother, grandfather and uncle) and his uncle will carry two roses (one each for his grandmother and grandmother).

I like the charm idea and I love that Hamlet passage.

sueblue29 · January 2010

Thank you all for your ideas - I think I'm going to go with the charm. I'll have a table of family photos. I'll just place larger ones of my dad in a conspicious location. I've been having a hard time with this and I really don't want to make it any harder than it already will be. I like the idea of an empty seat, but it's too concrete of a reminder. For me, the charm is perfect... thanks for the advice.

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