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I need a little help...I have 7 girls and he has only 4 guys, including his best man! How could we make this work without it looking silly and uneven? I have maid of honor, 6 bridesmaids and possibly

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UNEVEN BRIDAL PARTY

From who can walk you down the aisle to crafty ceremony decor, this board is a helpful area to plan your wedding ceremony.

I need a little help...I have 7 girls and he has only 4 guys, including his best man! How could we make this work without it looking silly and uneven? I have maid of honor, 6 bridesmaids and possibly

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UNEVEN BRIDAL PARTY

posted at 2/8/2012 11:34 AM EST on theknot.com

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I need a little help...I have 7 girls and he has only 4 guys, including his best man! How could we make this work without it looking silly and uneven? I have maid of honor, 6 bridesmaids and possibly 1 little girl for a flower girl, there are only 4 men and 3 little boys. I dont want to eliminate any of the girls. Is it silly to have an adult woman walk down with a 3 year old boy? Lol Any unique ideas of other roles some adults can play in the ceremony? Besides for readings?

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posted at 2/8/2012 12:08 PM EST on theknot.com

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Uneven sides are perfectly fine. Don't worry about that. And don't add more people into your ceremony for the sake of even sides.

As far as walking is concerned, I don't think it would be wierd to have a woman walk down with a little boy. It would be cute. Or you could have the boys and girls walk in separately.

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posted at 2/8/2012 12:14 PM EST on theknot.com

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I'm probably only going to have a maid of honor and a flower girl, while my fiance is probably going to have 3 or 4 guys. He thinks its a little weird, but I don't want to add more women on my side who I don't truly want there. Uneven bridal parties are becoming more and more common.

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posted at 2/8/2012 12:28 PM EST on theknot.com

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Uneven sides don't matter at all. My H had 4 guys. I had my MOH, one BM and one bridesman, 2 Jr. BMs and a flower girl.

I think it works best when the GM come out from the back with the groom and the bride's attendants process, especially with uneven numbers. As for the recessional, I had my BM and bridesman walk together, and my MOH walk with the Jr. BMs and flower girl (all her daughters). Then the 4 GM just walked out individually on their own.

It really doesn't matter how you decide to do it - there's no rule!

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posted at 2/8/2012 12:54 PM EST on theknot.com

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If you want them to walk, you could do 2 bridesmaids to 1 groomsmen if you are concerned about uneven number, other then that I honestly don't think its a big deal, we have 1 more girl on my side then on FI's side, so one of my girls is walking alone...no big deal.

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posted at 2/8/2012 1:05 PM EST on theknot.com

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Uneven sides are no big deal- as PPs have said, all the cool kids are doing it. :)

Seriously, don't worry about; ask who you want to ask and don't give people made-up jobs. And don't have your attendants walk everywhere in couples, because that's awkward anyway.

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posted at 2/8/2012 6:28 PM EST on theknot.com

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Totally fine. You could have one GM have 2 ladies, one on either side if you didn't want the woman walking with the young boy. Or the guys can all come in at once with the groom, and the BMs can process in one at a time (followed by the FGs/RBs).

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posted at 2/8/2012 6:59 PM EST on theknot.com

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I don't know where people get this idea about even sides.

When you look at your wedding album in twenty years, you'll see the loving faces of friends and family. You won't count heads to see how many folks are in the photo, and calculate bride vs groom ratios.

The only people who are the wedding to be paired up are the bride and groom.

DOGS need to be "walked." People don't. They've been getting in and out of rooms all their lives without trauma. No - your guests won't think it "looks weird" if they file out single file, or pair up as they go down the line and the "odd one" falls in behind. Brides waaaaay overthink this.

Do a weave if it bothers you....have one bridesmaid start down, then a man, then a gal, then a man, and so forth.

GUEST is an honor, along with wedding party and reader. Anything else is a lame job that screams, "I didn't have you in the wedding party, so I thought up a chore for you to do so you'll think you're being honored." Please don't.

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posted at 2/8/2012 11:34 PM EST on theknot.com

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Its not a big deal, don't ask people just to have even sides.

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posted at 2/9/2012 9:37 AM EST on theknot.com

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We initially had even sides just because that's how it happened. Then one of my BM's took herself out so now I'm down one. FI doesn't like the idea of one of his guys walking alone so we are doing a weave both in and out. I think it will look great, plus my friends and his friends don't have to walk arm in arm since they really don't know each other.

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posted at 2/9/2012 10:04 AM EST on theknot.com

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I have 3 girls and he has 4 guys. They are going to stand Boy-Girl in a half circle around us. His brother is walking his mother down the aisle and the other guys will walk with my bridesmaids. Followed by my mother walking me down the aisle. We like making things a little untraditional :)

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posted at 2/9/2012 12:31 PM EST on theknot.com

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Uneven is ok. I had 5 on my side and H had 11 (yes, eleven). The girls walked up the aisle alone and then were met and escorted by one of the guys. They recessed individually.

Here's a pic of what it looked like, the ceremony musicians are up on the porch behind the girls so that may have helped it look more full on that side. At least I think it looks fine.

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posted at 2/9/2012 4:21 PM EST on theknot.com

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Ours are uneven as well. I have 4 girls, FI has 5 guys. The FG and RB will walk down the aisle together.

We're going to have our brothers (in the WP) walk our mom's in and seat them, then move up to join the guys already waiting at the front. The girls will walk in by themselves one at a time.

For the recessional, we're having them pair up until the last girl, and then she will walk with two guys (who happen to be our brothers).

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posted at 2/13/2012 11:05 PM EST on theknot.com

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I am a TK lurker and thought that I would be all good explaining to my family that we wanted this to be about the important people in my life (which I and apparently all of you think is legitimate), but we had a lot of negative feedback actually. We sat down with both our parents and it came up. His mom wanted to know why he got 4 and I only got 3 and my step-mom literally went from staring to glaring to head shake and eye-roll while I said that we didn't feel like we needed even sides. It is still coming up. Anyone have a similar experience? How did you handle. I think I may just cave because I don't know if this is the hill I want to die on, but it seems silly.

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posted at 2/13/2012 11:22 PM EST on theknot.com

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Don't sweat the small stuff! Uneven sides are totally fine, no worries :)

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posted at 2/28/2012 3:40 PM EST on theknot.com

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We are having the same issue. He has 6, and I have either 3 or 4 (haven't decided). It doesn't bother me to have the sides uneven, but would it look goofy for the GM and BM to be standing every other (boy, girl, boy, girl) at the alter, so we will have both girls and boys on each of our sides?

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Re: UNEVEN BRIDAL PARTY

posted at 2/28/2012 11:39 PM EST on theknot.com

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Uneven is fine. Have the guys walk with the groom instead of the bridesmaids if it's the look of the processional that worries you.

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Re: UNEVEN BRIDAL PARTY

posted at 2/29/2012 9:06 PM EST on theknot.com

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In Response to Re: UNEVEN BRIDAL PARTY:

No, it would be fine to have them at the altar like that. My church's wedding coordinator suggested that.

It happens. I'll have 4 bridesmaids, and FI has 6. (I'm having 1 sibling + 3 friends, and he's having 4 siblings + 2 friends.)

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Re: UNEVEN BRIDAL PARTY

posted at 2/29/2012 10:12 PM EST on theknot.com

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In Response to Re: UNEVEN BRIDAL PARTY:

Google uneven wedding party and show them the pictures. It doesn't look odd at all; they've probably just never seen it before.

Also, the next time you have a question, please create your own post. You'll get more responses if you don't threadjack.