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Advice needed!

dmbauerweddingdmbauerwedding member
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Hello everyone! My fiance and I have decided that we want an adult only wedding. We have just been to too many weddings where there are a lot of kids running around at the ceremony and reception hall and we do not want that. We are looking for advice on what we should put on the invitation so guests know not to bring children? Does this seem rude or like it would be something that is ok to do?
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  • crnflkgirl75crnflkgirl75
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    Invitations are addressed to the people invited. Don't put their kid's names on it. Please don't put anything about it being an adults only wedding on the invite. If people call or RSVP for themselves and their children simply tell them you are sorry for the misunderstanding, but the budget didn't allow you to include children.
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  • deanozzideanozzi
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    Only address the invited to the parents. It should be clear when you do not have the childrens name listed on the invites. Good luck. 

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  • redheadfsuredheadfsu member
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    1. Don't put adults only anywhere. That is really rude

    2. Just put the names of those invited on the invite.

    3. Have very clear RSVP cards (some people even print/write everyone's name on them).

    4. If anyone adds ANY uninvited guests (like kids) call and inform them the invite was only for X and that you hope they can still attend. If they say but little Johnny must come or they can't come say something like, "Unfortunately we can't accommodate him, I guess that means you can't attend. We will miss you"

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  • kimberlykhkimberlykh member
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    Just write the people that are invited on the invitation.  Also, spread word of mouth as much as possible. I also included a very small blurb on my website under "other information' stating something to the effect of "because of the space in our venue, we are only able to include children in our wedding party. We'll be happy to help you arrange a sitter if you bring your child to Atlanta with you."  Be prepared for a few people to take issue with it, and a few people to decline because of this.
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  • muffin1986muffin1986
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    We had an adult reception only, and I read on MANY blogs that it's ok to state that on the invitation.

    I worded ours under the greeting after the date:

    "with an adult reception to follow".

    This way, the only kids who came were one's who needed constant attention (IE: new borns).

    Hope this helps!
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  • muffin1986muffin1986
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    I read on the Knot on many blogs that it is perfectly ok to request an adults only reception.  Here are some others, but it all is a matter of opinion.





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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_advice-needed-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:dc12beac-ea58-48cd-a9b4-1a65e0d37655Post:118c4638-c809-40b4-a212-c53082fbf933">Re: Advice needed!</a>:
    [QUOTE]We had an adult reception only, and I read on MANY blogs that it's ok to state that on the invitation. I worded ours under the greeting after the date: "with an adult reception to follow". This way, the only kids who came were one's who needed constant attention (IE: new borns). Hope this helps!
    Posted by muffin1986[/QUOTE]

    You read on some blogs that said it was okay, so you went ahead and did it, therefore, it must be proper etiquette to do this? Don't think so. OP, please, please don't do this.  Just because other people refuse to acknowledge the rudeness doesn't mean that it isn't.

    OP, listen to the other PP's about simply only listing adult names on invites and being specific with the RSVP cards.  Another way you can do it (if you don't want to write everyone's names on the cards) is say "We have reserved __ seats in your honor" (and fill in how many people are invited.
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  • muffin1986muffin1986
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_advice-needed-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:dc12beac-ea58-48cd-a9b4-1a65e0d37655Post:47ca18d1-3504-4dad-8428-57d27537e0c9">Re: Advice needed!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Advice needed! : You read on some blogs that said it was okay, so you went ahead and did it, therefore, it must be proper etiquette to do this? Don't think so. OP, please, please don't do this.  Just because other people refuse to acknowledge the rudeness doesn't mean that it isn't. OP, listen to the other PP's about simply only listing adult names on invites and being specific with the RSVP cards.  Another way you can do it (if you don't want to write everyone's names on the cards) is say "We have reserved __ seats in your honor" (and fill in how many people are invited.
    Posted by goobersinlove[/QUOTE]

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    </div><div>Maybe you think it's rude, but to each their own, as I said. Wedding planners in my area say it's perfectly acceptable. Don't write "no kids", but "adults only". Maybe New York and Ontario have different opinions. Everyone's entitled to them.</div><div>
    </div><div>OP, do what you feel is right. Contact local wedding/invitation vendors and ask. Writing the names out on the RSVP is a good idea too.</div><div>
    </div><div>Best of luck!</div><div>
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  • afeliz79afeliz79 member
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    Etiquette is not a "to each their own" sort of thing. It's either proper or it's not. And writing who is not invited on an invitation is not proper etiquette. OP, the others have given you some great ideas about how to word RSVP's. Good luck.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_advice-needed-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:dc12beac-ea58-48cd-a9b4-1a65e0d37655Post:ffa76efa-c342-405d-96dc-0f4d459d94f7">Re: Advice needed!</a>:
    [QUOTE]"Adult reception to follow" makes me think it's going to be hookers and blow. Also, it's rude.
    Posted by burntofferings[/QUOTE]



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  • polichikpolichik member
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    Ok, someone has to have a canned response by now about how etiquette isn't subjective and "to each his or her own." Why the F would someone give advice on the etiquette board if you don't respect etiquette?
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  • levanlaerelevanlaere
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    I am having an adult reception. I only wrote the names of the adults I wished to attend on the envelope. I didn't have to state adults only, your guests will figure it out.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_advice-needed-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:dc12beac-ea58-48cd-a9b4-1a65e0d37655Post:ffa76efa-c342-405d-96dc-0f4d459d94f7">Re: Advice needed!</a>:
    [QUOTE]"Adult reception to follow" makes me think it's going to be hookers and blow. Also, it's rude.
    Posted by burntofferings[/QUOTE]



    ROFLMAO
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