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Stressed outdoor destination

ajharvey80ajharvey80 member
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I'm planning our wedding for September 15, 2012 in Narragansett, RI which is about 2 hours away from where we live in CT. I'm finding it difficult to try to make plans.  Its difficult for us to get away for a weekend or even the day. I can get a lot accomplished with phone calls and emails but things like picking out flowers, bouquets, etc. is a little tougher. It's been a litle stressful because I'm the one doing all the researching and planning.  My MOH/sister lives in NC and I can barely get her on the phone let alone get any planning help.  Her and her husband are also going to another wedding May and won't be able to even come up for a bridal shower.  I just feel alone and stressed in the whole process when I should be excited.  I guess I'm just looking for some helpful ideas or thoughts.
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  • RebeccaB88RebeccaB88 member
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    ITA with the above poster.  Your MOH is only responsible for getting her dress and showing up in it at the wedding.  It's your FI's wedding too, so if you need help, he needs to step up and do it.  If you're stressed or upset or feeling lost, then you need to talk to him about it.  Decide together if it's all worth it to you to have this wedding, or if you'd rather just elope. 

    It really would  be tough to plan a wedding without actually being able to make at least one trip to all your vendors and location.  Is there any way you can wrangle a long weekend or a couple days out there, just to meet with everyone and make yourself feel better?  It might do a lot for you and your concerns.  And there really are some things you can't do over email, like see flower samples, taste food, get a feel for the location, etc.
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  • LaBellaVita23LaBellaVita23 member
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    So you want your sister who lives even further away from your venue than you do, to help plan?  If you need help, that's what your fiance is for.  If he's unable/unwilling to help, scale back your plans to something you can manage on your own.
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  • ajharvey80ajharvey80 member
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    I wasn't expecting my sister to travel in order to help me plan.  I just like to get her on the phone every now and then.  But that's an ongoing issue with or without a wedding to plan.  I really just need to hunker down, make as many calls as I can to get as much information as I can and then take a drive for a day.  The problem is that we have three dogs and can't always find a sitter and money is extremely tight right now.  I do need to get my fiance to do more but as long as I have the end result in mind, I can really take charge and do what needs to be done to get there.  I do better making plans and executing them on my own than I do if there are too many cooks in the kitchen so to speak.  I need to get serious.  After all, there are only 4 months left until the big day!
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