So. I'm sick of explaining how complex and dumb it is when it comes to family ties. My bro's FI is in my wedding party because I am in hers. Simple as that. Dumb, yes. But I'd rather that than deal with the drama and guilt party my mom would throw for me.
Anyway, we are two very different brides. In every way possible. I am all about DIY and being a clever, budget and vintage bride. She's all about modern style, elegance and expensive taste. I can accept this.
Yet, lately she's been passing some rather offhand comments about my wedding planning when she's "on the wine." She's called my ideas stupid and gives an air of one-uppage when it comes to our venues; I'm in a quaint hall which I will transform with my DIY skills and she's in a $$$$ country club. She's even hinted that she picked her date solely based on her desire to get hitched before me. And don't even get me started on her ring size comparisons. WTF? Her and my oldest bro may have a much bigger budget but rubbing it in my face is just rude.
I didn't feel like it was a competition in the beginning but the more I get into planning, the more her true colors are showing. I'm trying really hard to not let it get to me. What annoys me the most is people come to her defense and blame it on the wine. She never brings anything catty up when sober... weak powerplay if you ask me. The next morning she either does not remember or at least pulls off a good act.
What is a good way to put her in her place? Nothing too dramatic but a searing comment that will shut her up for good? I suck at confrontation.