I am not new to the Knot ,but I am new to some of the message boards.I made a couple of posts thinking that I would get some good advice .But later recanted because I knew what I had to do .Instead of congratulating me on my happiness ,I have been insulted.Don't get me wrong some women on here are not like that .Just the few that have commented.i continue to post on here because I know that there are some nice women on here.Can someone enlighten me on why its like that. .I didn't expect the harsh comments . i don't really write on these message boards at all. Yesterday was my first time and was floored by the comments. The first comment was nice and it went downhill from there . I wouldn't be engaged to someone who i couldn't open up to at all. I was hurt by my ex and didn't think I would find love again . So when me and him got together and was talking about marriage , then engaged I didn't want to scare him off. That's why I asked for advice on how to ask him to set a date.