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bridal party

posted at 2/6/2012 4:13 PM EST on theknot.com

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My fiance has a sister and wanted to know if I should put her in the bridal party?

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posted at 2/6/2012 4:23 PM EST on theknot.com

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If you want to. There's no obligation, though some people find it meaningful. Your fiance can also include her on his side.

If you get along well with her and are otherwise friends, it's a nice thing to do. If you've met her once and are not close, don't.

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posted at 2/6/2012 4:38 PM EST on theknot.com

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If you are close with her then yes. She can stand on your FIs side. But your BMs should be the ones that are nearest and dearest to you. That being said my brother was a GM and stood by my H.

If you do decide to have her as a BM just don't expect a single thing from her (actually from any of your BMs) other than them buying a dress. Many brides come and complain about how they asked their FI's sister or friend to be a BM and have a bunch of problems with them because they are not living up to the expectation or level of the other BMs.

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posted at 2/6/2012 5:27 PM EST on theknot.com

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If you want to yes. My FI has a sister that is almost as old as my mother so I we choose not to. I didn't think she would be comfortable when everyone else if half her age. But if you choose to she can stand on either side. FI and I traded a BM for a GM since he was a really close female friend and I have a really close male friend.

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posted at 2/6/2012 6:20 PM EST on theknot.com

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You don't have to, as PP have said it would be nice to, especially if he has brothers that are standing up for him. You can always have her stand on his side as well.

I have read a lot of posts that it has caused major drama when people don't include their sister in law to be when all FI's brothers are standing up for him, in this situation it may be best to do so or at least include her in some ways ie: readings, bringing up the gifts, usher and others.

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posted at 2/7/2012 8:41 PM EST on theknot.com

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If you go to etiquette and read my thread under AHHHHH Update on FSIL in bridal party issue (its very recent), you will see what massive drama this has caused. A lot depends unfortunately not on what you want, but on what his family expects as far as that goes. For example, my FI's family was infuriated that I didn't ask his sister. However, my family was totally fine with my FI not having my brothers (and my one brother is actually a good friend of my FI), my family just cares that they are there to celebrate with us. Some people are more about the show. Just make sure either way that your FI is 100% behind whichever you chose to do.

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posted at 2/7/2012 8:48 PM EST on theknot.com

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If you are close to her. It's a nice gesture, but not an obligation.

Don't give her a lame chore to do (usher, guest book, hostess, favor passer, etc.) if you don't have her as a bridesmaid. That's work, not an honor.

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