I just came across a problem that I don't know how to handle. I'm sure I'm not the only one with a unique family. I'm adopted by my grandparents which makes my birth mother my sister. My sister (birth mother) has a daughter, my niece, and then another son who she gave up for adoption when he was born. He has since reached out to my sister and my niece and myself as apart of his family. He is driving out for the wedding with my sister and niece.
The complication comes when my adoptive mother does not like my half brother, does not consider him part of the family, and is completely embarassed that he is coming to the wedding where she will have to explain a family member to her friends that's very "not Christian" circumstances. I can't really change how she feels about being upset with him, but my half brother considers me his sister and loves me dearly but has only known me since he turned 18 about 3 years ago.
I was listing off the groups of people who we will be taking pictures with and she flipped out when I mentioned he was taking pictures with us saying that,. "He's not our family." She would rather only have my sister and niece since they are actually family and exclude him which would greatly hurt his feelings. I consider him family too.
What do I do? My mother and father are 70. They are highly conservative, southern types and are also footing the bill for everything in the wedding. Throughout the whole process they have made it clear this wedding is about them and their friends since they are paying and have been waiting 40 years for one of their children to get married. Mostly it is their perogative since they are paying for it all. I just don't know how we are going to get past this without my mother breaking down and crying or my half brother feeling ostracized which would also offend his mother/my sister.
PS I apologize if my family dynamics are confusing. I tried to clarify as much as possible lol.
