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My mother, FMIL, and FSMIL are throwing me a bridal shower and inviting every female they know. Definitely not a problem. The question is, because most can't make it some have already given gifts, eve
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No one wants to deal with the etiquette police so let these Knotties help you avoid them. Post your questions for modern advice on etiquette and planning.
My mother, FMIL, and FSMIL are throwing me a bridal shower and inviting every female they know. Definitely not a problem. The question is, because most can't make it some have already given gifts, eve
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Bridal Shower/Wedding Gifts
posted at 2/11/2012 12:52 AM EST
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My mother, FMIL, and FSMIL are throwing me a bridal shower and inviting every female they know. Definitely not a problem. The question is, because most can't make it some have already given gifts, even though the shower isn't until mid-march, is it okay to open them? I've heard both yes and no, so I'm not sure. The anticipation is worse than Christmas. Haha.
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Re: Bridal Shower/Wedding Gifts
posted at 2/11/2012 12:58 AM EST
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I'd open them and send a thank you card. Some say you should wait until after your wedding to actually use the gift, but personally, I don't see why that matters too much.
(Of course, it would in the event that a couple doesn't actually get married, then I think you'd send the gift back?? Not sure, so someone here will know) <--- not saying this about you, just in general :)
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Re: Bridal Shower/Wedding Gifts
posted at 2/11/2012 1:03 AM EST
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First off, they should only be inviting people to the wedding.
As for opening the gifts, I'd do that now and send a thank you card right away, so they know that you received the gift and that it didn't get lost in the mail. However, you shouldn't use them until after the wedding.
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Re: Bridal Shower/Wedding Gifts
posted at 2/11/2012 1:15 AM EST
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Yes, mbody, that's why you're not supposed to use the gift until after the wedding. If the wedding does not occur you have to give the gift back, and you can't do that if it's already been used.
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Re: Bridal Shower/Wedding Gifts
posted at 2/11/2012 9:56 AM EST
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Vic- makes sense, which is what I thought. Or that person will have to go back out and purchase all the same gifts to return. Eeek! Probably just better to hold off!
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Re: Bridal Shower/Wedding Gifts
posted at 2/11/2012 10:46 AM EST
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Well, I'd at least open it to see what it is and that it's not broken or damaged. You should send the thank you note right away so the person knows that you got it. Then you can wait until after the wedding to use it.
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Re: Bridal Shower/Wedding Gifts
posted at 2/11/2012 8:16 PM EST
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In Response to Bridal Shower/Wedding Gifts:
My mother, FMIL, and FSMIL are throwing me a bridal shower and inviting every female they know. Definitely not a problem.
Posted by bellatoedward
Actually, it is. They should only be inviting "every female they know" if those women are also invited to the wedding.
The others are right about the gifts: you can open them and write a thank you note, but don't use them until after the wedding just in case something happens and the wedding is canceled. If someone gives you a check, cash it right away, but don't spend it until after the wedding.
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