Bullying

JessAndTrav · April 2010

Since I wasn't really around yesterday, I was reading Kiki's thread to Bbyckes and it got me thinking about internet bullying, but I figured a clicky poll is the best thing for anonymity. Feel free to elaborate your answer.

shoegal715 · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bullying-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9d6ff0fc-5d79-40e7-91ff-887300cc41bbPost:1ac25515-4bc3-46a2-9a1b-c436d0f58c54">Re: Bullying</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bullying : I've been called a <strong>nazi sympathizer </strong>on here. Honestly, your complaint barely registers.
Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]

<div>WTF? Sick.</div>

NuggetBrain · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bullying-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:9d6ff0fc-5d79-40e7-91ff-887300cc41bbPost:643031d4-821e-4a75-8f87-2c4027f83947">Re: Bullying</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bullying : What?
Posted by Champagne Supernova[/QUOTE]

mrsE's crazy ass. She's become a millionaire in the time we've been posting in this thread, you know.

Nebb · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bullying-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9d6ff0fc-5d79-40e7-91ff-887300cc41bbPost:5b2dc879-049e-4a0a-bd61-2000d1483c62">Re: Bullying</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bullying : It's not the fact I was hunted, it's the fact that you insulted my family, I told you more than once that it hurt my feelings, and yet you still can't budge / admit you were wrong / admit you crossed the line, or apologize. I apologize for my fuc.k ups, and I would never insult someone or their family like that. You were just mean. You were a BULLY.
Posted by shoegal715[/QUOTE]
Is your family this upset about what an online stranger had to say about them too?

Night_Sprite · April 2010

I don't know if I've been bullied, but there is a reg who everyone feels very sugar and spice about who once said something really mean to me. It isn't worth hashing out or bringing up specifics, but to this day I like her less for saying that thing months ago.

When someone is on the receiving end of a mean comment it can be real for much longer than for the person giving it.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bullying-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9d6ff0fc-5d79-40e7-91ff-887300cc41bbPost:1ac25515-4bc3-46a2-9a1b-c436d0f58c54">Re: Bullying</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bullying : I've been called a nazi sympathizer on here. Honestly, your complaint barely registers.
Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]

Yeah, I don't think, "Wow, your whole family is messed up" warrants being this upset, months later. It was ONE comment on an internet message board. That's not bullying.

beatlesgirl25 · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bullying-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9d6ff0fc-5d79-40e7-91ff-887300cc41bbPost:df09edd4-aa2d-415c-90c8-df03e10da3a1">Re: Bullying</a>:
[QUOTE]Shoegal, to clear things up, I didn't create this post so that you could call someone out about how evil and mean they are. I wanted more generalized answers.
Posted by JessAndTrav[/QUOTE]

And unfortunately instead, you got the early evening showing of When Knot Bullying Goes Wrong. I feel like this is some really sneaky after school special that is going to teach us all a Very Important Lesson. Can we just skip to the part where we hug?

Bubbalub · April 2010

Shoe, seriously, time to let it go. I'm trying to be nice but if you PMed her and she didn't feel the need to apologize then and it was MONTHS ago, then just let it go. It doesn't matter anymore.

NuggetBrain · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bullying-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:9d6ff0fc-5d79-40e7-91ff-887300cc41bbPost:d273b7ba-3f43-496e-9ac9-265431f74db7">Re: Bullying</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bullying : And unfortunately instead, you got the early evening showing of When Knot Bullying Goes Wrong. I feel like this is some really sneaky after school special that is going to teach us all a Very Important Lesson. Can we just skip to the part where we hug?
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

The more you know...

Nebb · April 2010

You know what, you gave me the opportunity to apologize but unfortunately sometimes people dont feel that what they said or did warrants it or they just dont feel like doing it. Thats life, you said how you feel, and thats all you can do. Let it go.

Bubbalub · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bullying-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9d6ff0fc-5d79-40e7-91ff-887300cc41bbPost:814e5f0f-dd24-48bd-87c5-6016cb41366c">Re: Bullying</a>:
[QUOTE] When someone is on the receiving end of a mean comment it can be real for much longer than for the person giving it.
Posted by Night_Sprite[/QUOTE]

I agree with this. But would you keep bringing it up over and over in a thread months later for all the world to see hoping for an apology the most certainly isn't going to be given? Probably not, because you have way more sense and self-worth than that.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bullying-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9d6ff0fc-5d79-40e7-91ff-887300cc41bbPost:814e5f0f-dd24-48bd-87c5-6016cb41366c">Re: Bullying</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't know if I've been bullied, but there is a reg who everyone feels very sugar and spice about who once said something really mean to me. It isn't worth hashing out or bringing up specifics, but to this day I like her less for saying that thing months ago. When someone is on the receiving end of a mean comment it can be real for much longer than for the person giving it.
Posted by Night_Sprite[/QUOTE]

I have to admit that, while I definitely don't hate anyone, there are one or two regs I'm not crazy about, even though everyone else luuuuurves them.

And whereas other people say, "Oh, yeah, I totally forgot that you called me an annoying hag in FFF a few months ago. I love you now!" I don't get over it quite that easily. I try, but I have to admit I hold a grudge for a while if someone insults me directly. I can think of one right now that I'm not over.

Night_Sprite · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bullying-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9d6ff0fc-5d79-40e7-91ff-887300cc41bbPost:7cf19aa7-0779-45a7-a6de-9570523e08c7">Re: Bullying</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bullying : I agree with this. But would you keep bringing it up over and over in a thread months later for all the world to see hoping for an apology the most certainly isn't going to be given? Probably not, because you have way more sense and self-worth than that.
Posted by Bubbalub[/QUOTE]
I hadn't read the tail of this where shoegal was losing her marbles. Don't contextualize my comment in her crazy, please.

shoegal715 · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bullying-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9d6ff0fc-5d79-40e7-91ff-887300cc41bbPost:d273b7ba-3f43-496e-9ac9-265431f74db7">Re: Bullying</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bullying : And unfortunately instead, you got the early evening showing of When Knot Bullying Goes Wrong. I feel like this is some really sneaky after school special that is going to teach us all a Very Important Lesson. <strong>Can we just skip to the part where we hug?</strong>
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

<div>I would like to. And to the person who said let it go: you're right. Nebb still won't budge, so whatever, I'm done. *deep breath*</div>

AmoroAgain · April 2010

I'm just going to say that those of you who've just started posting in less than the past year... you have no idea what kind of bullying and shittalking that actually happened here. And I wasn't here for the worst of it even. Though I'm sure that people think I'm a bully as well. But, it doesn't make me lose sleep over it. People say mean crap to me all the time, and I haven't died yet!

beatlesgirl25 · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bullying-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9d6ff0fc-5d79-40e7-91ff-887300cc41bbPost:9799dea3-be79-4b53-a691-8603498d1fa5">Re: Bullying</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bullying : I have to admit that, while I definitely don't hate anyone, <strong>there are one or two regs I'm not crazy about,</strong> even though everyone else luuuuurves them. And whereas other people say, "Oh, yeah, I totally forgot that you called me an annoying hag in FFF a few months ago. I love you now!" I don't get over it quite that easily. I try, but I have to admit I hold a grudge for a while if someone insults me directly. I can think of one right now that I'm not over.
Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]

Just one or two? :) I have more than that.

I think it sucks being called out for anything. Thankfully, whenever it's happened to any significant degree to me, it's always been someone who I didn't like anyway. So I have very little respect for their opinions on anyone's character, including my own. It's not something I lose sleep over.

JessAndTrav · April 2010

When people say that there are regs they don't like, I always want to know who it is so I can see if we have something in common.

wadingmoose · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bullying-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9d6ff0fc-5d79-40e7-91ff-887300cc41bbPost:0528edc5-7deb-48db-b366-80ed5d113393">Re: Bullying</a>:
[QUOTE]When people say that there are regs they don't like, I always want to know who it is so I can see if we have something in common.
Posted by JessAndTrav[/QUOTE]

I always think it must be me :)

Bubbalub · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bullying-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9d6ff0fc-5d79-40e7-91ff-887300cc41bbPost:0a2d4615-7ced-4456-9ac9-fde9028d8f21">Re: Bullying</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bullying : I hadn't read the tail of this where shoegal was losing her marbles. <strong> Don't contextualize my comment in her crazy, please.</strong>
Posted by Night_Sprite[/QUOTE]

That was not my intent. I was trying to say that yes, hurt feelings can last a while but it doesn't do a person any good to re-hash it publicly months later and hope for an apology. I was not trying to say that you would do something like that, at all. It was purely about hurt feelings potentially lasting a while and how not to handle it.

Like I said earlier, semantics totally make a difference on the internet. How one words something can cause it to be interpreted totally differently than how one intends it.

Night_Sprite · April 2010

Most definitely, Bubbalub. Most definitely.

beatlesgirl25 · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bullying-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9d6ff0fc-5d79-40e7-91ff-887300cc41bbPost:0528edc5-7deb-48db-b366-80ed5d113393">Re: Bullying</a>:
[QUOTE]When people say that there are regs they don't like, I always want to know who it is so I can see if we have something in common.
Posted by JessAndTrav[/QUOTE]

I wonder the same thing. :) But that's the kind of preference stuff that I don't expect to see people disclose. I think it's fine to keep it to yourself, unless you want to share.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bullying-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9d6ff0fc-5d79-40e7-91ff-887300cc41bbPost:a81135b7-a635-48e3-b7be-71c587b1396b">Re: Bullying</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bullying : I always think it must be me :)
Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]

Ha! I really doubt it. I wasn't so sure about you when I first started posting, though. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />

Bubbalub · April 2010

Whew! I was worried there for a minute that I offended you! I like you.

shellydiane820 · April 2010

I've only skimmed through this but I have yet to see Nebb call out someone who doesn't deserve it. You probably said something stupid and had it coming.

salt78 · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bullying-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9d6ff0fc-5d79-40e7-91ff-887300cc41bbPost:36e926f8-82a2-47ee-9a12-4f85eac6676a">Re: Bullying</a>:
[QUOTE]I've only skimmed through this but I have yet to see Nebb call out someone who doesn't deserve it. You probably said something stupid and had it coming.
Posted by shellydiane820[/QUOTE]

<div>Yeah this.</div><div>
</div><div>And to foot tattoo girl...you have done nothing but make a consistent ass of yourself on every single board I've seen you on. And that doesn't mean I'm "hunting you" or anything. You wish you were cool enough for me to care that much about you.</div><div>
</div><div>People need only refer to the thread on WP yesterday where you told that girl that you didn't believe she was raped. </div>

Night_Sprite · April 2010

Wading, my post isn't about you if that helps.

JessAndTrav · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bullying-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9d6ff0fc-5d79-40e7-91ff-887300cc41bbPost:ee3b2fe6-7516-487f-8ce5-501fc67d3ccb">Re: Bullying</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bullying : I wonder the same thing. :) But that's the kind of preference stuff that I don't expect to see people disclose. I think it's fine to keep it to yourself, unless you want to share.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

You know what they say, if you don't have anything nice to say, come sit by me.

beatlesgirl25 · April 2010

Don't worry Salt, I was the one she was referring to that called her out for double paging Squirrly. I didn't "hunt" her either. But I was trying to help her slow down the PW-ness on E.

miss.jawright · April 2010

Yeah I have never been bullied on here. I have been called a crappy person and it was said I suck in general by one reg but she said it after reading two posts and in my mind she just wanted to someone to flam so a newbie was easy. I moved on. However if a reg was constantly badgering me that would suck and I would probably just leave the knot if it bugged me enough. This is a voluntary activity and we are all strangers. Take it with a grain of salt.

Nebb · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bullying-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9d6ff0fc-5d79-40e7-91ff-887300cc41bbPost:13b0d3ad-bfc8-4cd5-b537-9da96525004e">Re: Bullying</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bullying : Yeah this. And to foot tattoo girl...you have done nothing but make a consistent ass of yourself on every single board I've seen you on. And that doesn't mean I'm "hunting you" or anything. You wish you were cool enough for me to care that much about you. People need only refer to the thread on WP yesterday where you told that girl that you didn't believe she was raped.
Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]
You hunt people down too huh? You need to hunt me down so we can hang out and drink beers together. Beers & bullies go together perfectly.

JessAndTrav · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bullying-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9d6ff0fc-5d79-40e7-91ff-887300cc41bbPost:13b0d3ad-bfc8-4cd5-b537-9da96525004e">Re: Bullying</a>:
[QUOTE] People need only refer to the thread on WP yesterday where you told that girl that you didn't believe she was raped.
Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]

I actually think I just heard tires screech in my head.

PS: This comment posted randomly in an October 2020 thread. Haha.

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