So, FMIL has a woman she has been friends with for many many years. This friend has a son getting married. I have met the friend maybe once or twice, have never met the son getting married, and have never met his fiance. I got an invite to the bridal shower for this girl today. The family is italian and they have what I think are super weird etiquette rules and probably invited me to be polite to my FMIL. I am not going to this shower. Do I need to send a gift? 1. I don't know this girl or her soon to be husband. 2. I'm in grad school and work on a per diem basis so any money I make goes towards my own wedding and living expenses with not much left over for fun things and 3. I have a bridal shower and a baby shower for 2 friends the same month as this girl's shower, so to afford a gift I'd have to pull from my savings, which I really can't justify.