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I agree with Eagles. It will cause far less drama inviting her than you will if you don't invite her.
I want to say be the better person and go ahead and invite her. However, I had a similar issue with my aunt and did not invite her after sending a STD. Long story short, about 9 months before my wedding, $hit went haywire with her and a huge issue occurred between her, my mother, and their brothers & sisters. It was bad. In order to prevent an issues at the wedding and allow my mother, grandmother, and other aunts/uncles to enjoy the day without stress, I opted not to invite her. So yes, I committed an etiquette crime.Looking back, I wish I had taken the chance and invited her. There is a chance that a happy time like a wedding could have helped everyone mend fences and I think about that everyday. And...there is a chance that $hit could have hit the fan...but that would have been her own doing. It would have been worth taking the chance.
I couldn't follow the story at all either. Did the OP get in the middle of some kind of family fight and pick a side? Sounds like this daughter person (whoever she belongs to) likes to create drama, and the entire family follows along and gets sucked in. OP, just stay out of other people's relationships, and suck it up and invite her. Maybe she won't come, and then you're in the clear. If she causes a stupid scene, have her escorted out. She will look like the idiot.