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Help a N00B out :( Plus One Etiquette?

cupcakesNbeercupcakesNbeer member
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is it necessary to give EVERY single person you invite a plus one?  I DO NOT want randoms at my wedding, period.  If someone is dating someone I may not know very well, that's a different story.  I would think that if the person you are inviting is not dating anyone or in a relationship, and there are lots of other people there that they will know, then there is no need for a plus one.  Any thoughts?   
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Re: Help a N00B out :( Plus One Etiquette?

  • LoopysevenLoopyseven member
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    You are right.  If someone is in a relationship *regardless of how well you know them" they have to be invited together.  But if someone is truly single, you do not have to invite them to bring a random guest.
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  • Ali092011Ali092011 member
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    edited August 2012
    We have very few single guests, so we are lucky enough to be able to extend a plus one to everyone. If we couldn't, I would definitely at least try to give a plus one to:

    - members of the bridal party
    - guests who are traveling (many people don't like to travel alone)
    - IF POSSIBLE and you have the space, anyone who comes to you and asks if they can bring someone (I know this isn't always realistic, I'd just have a hard time saying no if a guest that I didn't give a plus one called me up and said she had a friend she really wanted to bring.)

    ETA: Just to be clear, although I think you know the difference, I'm referring to plus ones, not significant others. Any guest who is dating someone or is in a relationship MUST be invited with that person. "Plus one" is a term exclusively used for a friend or family member that a single guest brings. I think OP is clear, but I just want to make sure people know I'm inviting SOs. :)
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  • katehar01katehar01 member
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    I agree with PP - I only allowed Bridal Party and guests traveling alone to bring a plus one if they weren't in a relationship.  Honestly, most didn't take me up on it, but my BM traveling from Hawaii is bringing a friend, and I'm so glad she has someone to travel with.  For local single guests or single guests traveling with their families, I wouldn't worry about it.
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  • stantokmstantokm member
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    I agree with everyone else.  I would only add that if I had a single friend who didn't really know anyone else who was coming, I would probably give them a plus one so that they had someone to hang out with at the reception, regardless of how far they had to travel.
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  • TheVirginiansTheVirginians member
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    You invite who you want to invite. If someone wants to bring an extra, then they need to ask you if they may. Obviously, you say yes to the request.
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