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How to tell them "No kids allowed"...after they RSVP for 3.

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Hello! I searched through a few pages on this board but couldn't find the exact response I was looking for. I'm sorry if you've answered this question a million times! We are having a "no children" we

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How to tell them "No kids allowed"...after they RSVP for 3.

posted at 2/9/2012 6:11 PM EST on theknot.com

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Hello! I searched through a few pages on this board but couldn't find the exact response I was looking for. I'm sorry if you've answered this question a million times!

We are having a "no children" wedding. We addressed the Save the Dates and the Invitations in the proper manner.

So, I got my first RSVP back today that includes a child. (They RSVP'd for 3 instead of 2.) I am trying and trying to think of a tactful way to tell them that they can't bring the kid. Any help with the wording??

Thank you!

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posted at 2/9/2012 6:15 PM EST on theknot.com

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"Hi! We received your response for the wedding. Apparently we had a miss communication, the invitation was only for you and SO, not little person. I do hope you will still be able to make it."

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posted at 2/9/2012 6:15 PM EST on theknot.com

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"Hi Suzy, I just got your RSVP and I noticed it was for 3 people instead of 2. I'm so sorry for the confusion, but the invitation was only for you and John. We can't accommodate Junior at the wedding. Will you still be attending?"

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Re: How to tell them "No kids allowed"...after they RSVP for 3.

posted at 2/9/2012 6:26 PM EST on theknot.com

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Come up with a tactful rebuttal for "But can you make just one exception for my beautiful little angel? He/she is so well-behaved and I just can't come without him attached to my hip."

b/c you just might get it from them, if you addressed to just the parents and they still didn't get the memo.....

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posted at 2/9/2012 6:36 PM EST on theknot.com

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I like what Steph said (wrote) :). If they say they won't come if they can't bring junior - your response is "I'm so sorry to hear that. We will miss you and hope we can get together another time when junior can be included".

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posted at 2/9/2012 7:19 PM EST on theknot.com

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Wow- awesome advice on this thread! What thoughtful, helpful answers! I'm saving this in case this happens to me too!!

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In Response to Re: How to tell them "No kids allowed"...after they RSVP for 3.:

Come up with a tactful rebuttal for "But can you make just one exception for my beautiful little angel? He/she is so well-behaved and I just can't come without him attached to my hip." b/c you just might get it from them, if you addressed to just the parents and they still didn't get the memo.....
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I'm sorry, but we aren't able to make any exceptions. Will you and John still be able to make it?

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posted at 2/9/2012 7:47 PM EST on theknot.com

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I agree with what others have said. Just make sure you have a good answer for when they try to convince you to let the little one come.

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posted at 2/9/2012 9:30 PM EST on theknot.com

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The responses are great! I had the same problem. Just use something like the above suggestions, or follow it up with "the venue isn't really suited for kids, and we have limited space".

Had the same problem! That is why my wedding is at 8pm.. To late for the kiddos to be out!

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posted at 2/9/2012 9:31 PM EST on theknot.com

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More than likely, this will happen at your wedding if you are wanting to eliminate the kids attending.

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posted at 2/10/2012 9:35 AM EST on theknot.com

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I'm using this "I'm sorry if there was any confusion, but we only reserved 2 spots for you. Will you and SO still be attending?"

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posted at 2/10/2012 11:53 AM EST on theknot.com

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Thank you everyone for your advice! I

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posted at 2/10/2012 12:22 PM EST on theknot.com

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I want to add this JUST in case; the only exception to the rule is a new baby that is breast feeding. Otherwise, everyone has given you great advice.

"I love being married. It's so great to find one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life." - Rita Rudner

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posted at 2/10/2012 8:29 PM EST on theknot.com

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In Response to Re: How to tell them "No kids allowed"...after they RSVP for 3.:

I want to add this JUST in case; the only exception to the rule is a new baby that is breast feeding. Otherwise, everyone has given you great advice.
Posted by Harry87

That's a divided opinion on these boards, not a mandatory exception, from past threads' experience.... not everyone agrees.