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I've mentioned "Tacky B*tch" (what I call her in my head), FI's best friend's wife, before; meddling, socially inappropriate, unsolicited advice girl.   She is now spamming my Facebook with

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No one wants to deal with the etiquette police so let these Knotties help you avoid them. Post your questions for modern advice on etiquette and planning.

I've mentioned "Tacky B*tch" (what I call her in my head), FI's best friend's wife, before; meddling, socially inappropriate, unsolicited advice girl.   She is now spamming my Facebook with

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Just a vent

posted at 2/9/2012 7:28 PM EST on theknot.com

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I've mentioned "Tacky B*tch" (what I call her in my head), FI's best friend's wife, before; meddling, socially inappropriate, unsolicited advice girl. She is now spamming my Facebook with discount bridal sites. She literally put 6 posts on my wall with links to various warehouses, all of which I've deleted.

She is 33, has never had a job, and I'm assuming, has a very small social circle but I want out of it. FI keeps reminding me to play nice because she'll be in my life for a very long time. We're having dinner with them at my FMIL's Sunday and I'm just dreading it. If she gives me one more piece of terrible, unwanted advice I swear I might snap on her.

I think there might be a lot bean dipping going on.

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posted at 2/9/2012 7:36 PM EST on theknot.com

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Does she have a good heart? Or is she passive agressive/snobby? Some people really do mean well, but they just don't understand that they bug the living shitt out of their friends/family. It's harder for me to tell off someone who means well because I feel bad.

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posted at 2/9/2012 7:44 PM EST on theknot.com

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I'm honestly not sure but she can be a bit of a sh*t starter (example: offering her pastor for our wedding, and when we said we were getting a secular officiant she basically said that that wouldn't count and marriages NEED to be by a religious official.) She may just mean to help, but I'm not sure how to get her to stop. I've tried "Thank you but our planning is going just fine!" and no luck. I rarely have to physically interact with her (thank god) so dinner in front of FMIL is just giving me that much more anxiety.

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posted at 2/9/2012 7:51 PM EST on theknot.com

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Ok yeah forget what I said. That would piss me off. So is she just clueless to the fact that you can't stand her?

I guess just keep ignoring her. Or maybe you can pull her aside at the dinner, maybe towards the end, and say, "Hey I get that you have a lot of ideas and suggestions, but FI and I really have it all under control and I hate for you to be putting so much energy into this when our tastes/ideas/perspectives don't seem to be matching up."

Those are the diplomatic suggestions. Really I'd be tempted to pull her aside and tell her I don't like her much less appreciate her snide comment about secular weddings.

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posted at 2/9/2012 8:06 PM EST on theknot.com

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I think I might be the snobby one actually. I just keep thinking "NOT taking wedding advice from someone whose first action upon getting engaged was posting a picture of the ring, with the price written below".

Although, this wedding advice thing is probably going to be cake compared to what happens when the kids start coming in.

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posted at 2/9/2012 8:12 PM EST on theknot.com

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Whoa. Whoa. Like, on Facebook?

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posted at 2/9/2012 8:18 PM EST on theknot.com

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oh yea.

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I like what em said about pulling her aside (but I'd do it after she puts her foot in her mouth, otherwise it might be coming out of nowhere).

And wait really? FB? the price?! wowzas.

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There's nothing saying you have to take her advice. If this is what she wants to do, let her do it. How is it hurting you?

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posted at 2/10/2012 10:24 AM EST on theknot.com

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I think I might be the snobby one actually. I just keep thinking "NOT taking wedding advice from someone whose first action upon getting engaged was posting a picture of the ring, with the price written below". Although, this wedding advice thing is probably going to be cake compared to what happens when the kids start coming in.
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I literally gasped. omg.

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posted at 2/10/2012 11:01 AM EST on theknot.com

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Its hurting me because constant texts, emails, and facebooked suggestions irritate the hell out of me and while I would normally cut anything that negative out of my life it isn't an option here. So instead I vent.

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posted at 2/10/2012 12:51 PM EST on theknot.com

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Oh man. I think I would have to try a more direct line, or just try to ignore her as much as possible. Good luck with the dinner party. I've had a lot of practice deflecting unwanted conversations because of one coworker who tells anyone who will listen about her personal life (and financial problems, and daughter's social life, etc.) I pretty much just don't acknowledge a word she says, just the occasional mmm-hmm. It keeps our interactions pretty short.