must i invite her?

Re: must i invite her?

• StephBeanWed61502 member

  

  March 2012

  I don't understand why you would have to.  You have good, close relationships with the other girls' parents and not with this woman.  It makes sense that you'd invite them and not her.  There's certainly no "rule" that parents of wedding party members have to be invited to your wedding.

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• Stackeye210 member

  

  March 2012

  You can invite whomever you'd like to invite and just b/c someone is a BM doesn't mean their parent needs invited.  The BM is an adult, she doesn't need mommy there with her.  However, will that BM feel slighted b/c all of the other BM's parents got an invite and hers didn't?  I think it's one of those situations where you should think of your friends feelings.  If she's a very independent of her mom sort of person she may not even notice or even think about her mom being at the wedding, but you need to tread lightly and be respectful even when someone else isn't being.  

  
  

  
  

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• ccarrion77

  

  March 2012

  I'd talk to your BM, find out how she would feel about it.  Regardless it’s your wedding, if it were me I wouldn't invite her, and I'd have no guilt about it...

  

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• Laurahan1127 member

  

  March 2012

  You don't have to invite her. I just realized as I was reading your post that I invited the parents of all my bridesmaids except one. I just don't have a relationship with them, and it never occurred to me to invite them. Don't worry about it.
  
  Unless you were planning to invite the S/O of this woman, obviously. You didn't mention the BM's father, so I am assuming they either aren't together anymore or you don't feel close to him either, but that would be the only circumstance where I would say you have to invite her.

  

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• rebarobert2012

  

  March 2012

  I don't think it's necessary to invite her.  You don't have a close relationship with her.  The only reason to invite her would be if you are inviting her significant other.  Then, she would need to be invited.

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• gabriel0915 newb

  

  March 2012

  I certainly wouldn't. If you're BM knows how her mom treats you then she will understand. Like PP said. It's your wedding so invite who you want. Her mom clearly doesn't seem to care too much for you so I doubt she'll care she's not invited, she'll probably just be rude about it. I know if my mom wasn't invited to a wedding I was at she probably wouldn't care but if she did she'd probably say something to me and no one else so I'd brush it off.

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• TangledMelody

  

  March 2012

  Absolutely not. I'm not inviting all of my BM's parents/family. One of them has a dad and a sister that are painfully obnoxious and never stop talking. I don't need people I only sort of know talking a random guests' ear off.

  
  

   Plus, this woman sounds borderline emotionally abusive. No one who makes you feel that terrible should be in a 5 mile radius of your special day. Invite only who you love and have fun!

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