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Long story short, after FMIL gave us a huge lists of guests that we werent planning on inviting, she also stated that she'd pay for all of their dinners (we have yet to see this money) What bothers me is her constant question about how much my parents plan to contribute. I've tried to gracefully deflect it, but she asks every time we see her.She is well aware that my Mother who lives in Arizona is not contributing. She is also well aware that my stepmother has broken her leg twice during our engagement and has been out of work, so finances for my father have been tight. We also dont see my parents often, whereas we see her every week.I just dont know what to say to her anymore, I feel like deflecting just isn't getting through, she even goes so far as to offer suggestions for what they could pay for.At this point I'd like to convey a sense of "any money my parents give us comes with no strings attached, so theyre not obligated, and ITS NONE OF YOUR DAMN BUSNIESS ANYWAYS" but as nice as possible
The next time she asks try reflecting it back on her - say something like "why do you want to know?"If she doesn't let up I'd have your FI talk to her.
How tacky, I don't understand why people think it's necessary (or even appropriate) to ask those kinds of questions. No one in this whole wedding planning process has asked how much something has cost except for FI cousin who is getting married a few months after and wondered about our DJ as they need one. I would just say (in a nice tone, which would be difficult for me) that it is between your family, FI and yourself. As for adding extra people, regardless of her paying for them, I would explain you would like it more personal and intimate and the guest list has been set.
Thank you guys so much, I thought I was the only one who thought she was super rude. Unfortunatly it is impossible to not invite those extra people now, STD's went out months ago (Might I mention FI family was the only side to have people ASK to be invited, and some not just ask, but post of his FACEBOOK WALL asking to be invited, and then ask if they could bring a date!!) STD=invitation Shes a nice woman, but shes overbearing alot. And I feel like anything I say to her at all comes off as snotty. I definitley dont want to hurt her feelings, but It's getting to be a little much, were a little over 3 months away!!!
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