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odd etiquette/wedding guest question

posted at 2/10/2012 9:45 PM EST on theknot.com

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My FI and I are getting married in Vegas June 24th of this year. Super small wedding, right now only two guests but possiby four depending on airline ticket prices. Anyway...I just found out that my exMIL (who I love to DEATH!..No really, I do!) and her SO are going to be in Vegas the exact same time for a business convention. She has hinted about wanting to be at my wedding. My FI really likes her and they get along nicely, but he thinks it might be a little weird since neither my parents nor his mom will be there. I don't view my exMIL as that, to me shes like my older sister. We've always been close and great friends, but this might raise a few eyebrows. Thoughts?

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Re: odd etiquette/wedding guest question

posted at 2/10/2012 9:48 PM EST on theknot.com

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Can you get together with her another time? Lunch the day before or something? If you're having such a small wedding I think it might be weird to invite her, but that shouldn't stop you from seeing her all together.

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posted at 2/10/2012 9:49 PM EST on theknot.com

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Are your parents and his parents invited and just not going? Or will they not be invited at all?

If it is the first, I think it would be fine to extend an invitation to her. If it is the second, no way would I invite her.

ETA: I also like Anna's idea.

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Re: odd etiquette/wedding guest question

posted at 2/10/2012 9:53 PM EST on theknot.com

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Parents are invited but can't due to finances. They would all love to be there, but FI mother can't afford the time off of work and my parents are retired and already have an Alaskan cruise booked for Aug so that's their vacation money.

We are meeting for dinner the day before and spending some time together then.

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Re: odd etiquette/wedding guest question

posted at 2/10/2012 11:41 PM EST on theknot.com

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If they can't be there due to finances, then I don't think it's a bad thing to invite them to the wedding. It's not like you just didn't invite your parents because you didn't want them there.

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posted at 2/11/2012 8:00 AM EST on theknot.com

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I agree with Sonya. Since you're not preventing your parents from being there, if there's someone else special who happens to be in Las Vegas when you're getting married, invite them. But I wouldn't include them in photos that parents would see. It might make them sad.

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posted at 2/11/2012 2:23 PM EST on theknot.com

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If your parents are not there I would think its a little wierd, especially if your FI has no relationship with your exMIL. Maybe meet up with them the night before for dinner or drinks or something?

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Re: odd etiquette/wedding guest question

posted at 2/11/2012 9:10 PM EST on theknot.com

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Here's the thing, I talk to me ex-MIL at least twice a week. She has a great relationship with my children and more than that, we are great friends. I don't, and never have, thought of her as a mother in law, she's always been my friend first. My FI likes her a lot also.

However, my FI and I decided that we aren't going to invite them to our wedding. More than anything, we want it to just be me and him with our two best friends. My ex-MIL and her SO will be meeting us a Maggianos for our "reception" dinner. Thank you ladies for your wonderful advice! It really did help my FI and I talk this thru and come to a decision.

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