Never in my wildest dreams did I imagine this would be an issue. My FI and I are second time arounders. We have, together, five children. We are getting married in June and I have one semester of graduate school left. The purpose of the background information is that we have a VERY LIMITED BUDGET!!! As such, we have found a great venue which will suit our needs and price range. We are also doing lots and lots of DIY. He is fab FI. Ok so the problem. Our ceremony and reception is going to be small. We are inviting a total of 60 people. Our immediate families make up about 15 of that (big honkin family). Anyway, my family live out of state. There are individuals we have decided not to invite because of budget issue and even if budget wasnt an issue, quite frankly we are not close and they are not very supportive. The issue is there are SEVERAL family members (mine inparticular), who think they are coming/invited. The save the dates go out next week. How do I politely tell people the wedding is by direct invitation only? In understand some may not agree and think if your family wants to make the effort then let them come. However, there are a lot of personal reasons I live over 2000 miles away and while I love them dearly, there are certain family members who are attention seekers. OK, advice please...I dont want to sound like a bridezilla BUT HELP!!!