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In Response to Re: Rude to not let guests bring +1's??:
I am perfectly aware that the proper etiquette is to invite all SO. I'm saying that it is not the end of the world if you have a not-so-serious bf/gf and have to leave them at home. If someone just wants to exclude purely because they don't like/approve then that is different. And if they exclude because they just want to be able to afford a $6000 dress, then that is also unacceptable. But if it makes the difference between them having a super close cousin or not, then I would rather they at least have the close cousin there. And I would understand because "proper" etiquette is sometimes not realistic.
Posted by musicalcanadianbride
How do you determine what's a serious SO, though? I have friends who got engaged after dating someone for 5, 6, 7, 8 years, and friends who got engaged in under 18 months. My roommate from college has been living with her now FI before they even dated. Once they decided to become an official couple, they already lived together. But because they lived together for 8-10 months, but were only dating for 1, would they be serious, or not? (ETA: They were dating other people when they first lived together, and the dude's exGF also used to live with them. She moved out, they broke up, then my roommate and dude started dating.)
What about when my FI and I were long distance? We did a LDR for TWO YEARS, which takes a lot of serious commitment to maintain - and relationships like this typically are very serious from the start because of the work it takes to make a LDR work. Would we be less serious after being together for just under two years because we still lived in two different states (because I couldn't find a job in his city, not because I really enjoyed only seeing him on the weekends)?
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