Changing my name before marriage

helms5 · January 2010

My fiance/ex husband and I have been married before. We were married 6 years ago and got divorced. I never took back my maiden name. We are getting married again. Should I take my maiden name back before this wedding or does it really matter?

RaiKai · January 2010

I don't see why it would matter, and it sounds like a pain in the ass to do it that way. You would be changing it all over, and then changing it all over again after....what is the point really?

Your name being changed or not changed is not required to "validate" a legal marriage after all, many women don't change their name after.

SarahSmile23 · January 2010

it would be really weird for you to take your maiden name back before the wedding, IMO!

goheels05 · January 2010

No.

emilyinchile · January 2010

I don't see any reason why this would be useful/good, and it sounds a) like a big hassle and b) kind of weird at this stage of the game.

laurenclaire1386 · January 2010

Just out of curiosity, why would you change back to your maiden for your engagement? I can't think of one single reasonable answer to this question.

MNVegas · January 2010

Agree with above. Why would you do that? Sounds like a big waste of time and money to me. After all you are marrying the same guy, again.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · January 2010

I'm assuming you haven't changed your name back yet because it is a huge PITA. And will be an unnecessary PITA to do it again when you get married.

mwhitson14 · January 2010

Totally an unnecessary hassle.

kristinanddan · January 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_changing-name-before-marriage?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:683Discussion:069fa781-abc5-4512-afd2-315133fa3812Post:6faf2502-c6de-4721-a655-b7d0965b7f0e">Re: Changing my name before marriage</a>:
[QUOTE]Just out of curiosity, why would you change back to your maiden for your engagement? I can't think of one single reasonable answer to this question.
Posted by laurenclaire1386[/QUOTE]

The only thing I can come up with is that it might look a little funny on the invitations now since they both already have the same last name. That's all I got though.

baby green bird · January 2010

sounds like a train wreck. X 2

salt78 · January 2010

I think it's extremely weird that you are having a second wedding to the same guy altogether.

MNVegas · January 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_changing-name-before-marriage?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:683Discussion:069fa781-abc5-4512-afd2-315133fa3812Post:2f696728-62a3-4c18-b87f-b57cc384afbd">Re: Changing my name before marriage</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Changing my name before marriage : The only thing I can come up with is that it might look a little funny on the invitations now since they both already have the same last name. That's all I got though.
Posted by kristinanddan[/QUOTE]

She could use her maiden and last name on the invite, example:
Jane Doe Smith & John Smith

Phoeber · January 2010

Yeah, just keep your name as it is. It would be pointless to change it only to turn around and change it again.

SarahPLiz · January 2010

not that you askes, but I hope you aren't expecting a gift.. or a lot of guests. They already saw you get married long ago.

noonescookie · January 2010

I would play up the fact that you're already Mr. and Mrs. helms5! It's part of your unique story and experience, and it's kinda cute. Assuming the positive - that you've both grown and learned more about yourselves and one-another in the last 6 years - the fact that it's a re-marriage is worth celebrating.

bablingbrooke · January 2010

Not only should you not change your name, you should also not have a wedding. Do a JOP thing, don't register, and keep it all low-key.

rrkenney · January 2010

Not to step out of line since I'm a n00b, but OP didn't say that she had a wedding the first time around, she just said that she was married to him before. This is a great chance to make it more "real" this time if last time the wedding was under stress or in secret. I have a friend who didn't have a wedding but now wishes she did and I'm excited to attend their renewal (if they do end up having one, money was the issue before and it's still the issue now) with a gift in hand because they didn't have that luxury the first time around.

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