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Hello all! We got engaged on 1/7/12 we are still discussing dates and a big factor in that discussions is how much money we need to save, but we need to make some decisions on preferred venues and num
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feeling like im putting the cart before the horse
posted at 1/27/2012 4:13 PM EST
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Hello all! We got engaged on 1/7/12 we are still discussing dates and a big factor in that discussions is how much money we need to save, but we need to make some decisions on preferred venues and number of people and i am just having a hard time with that, any suggestions? i need help but am concerned about hiring a wedding planner A i don't think we could afford it B i am not sure how if that will make it more enjoyable or less, any ideas suggestions? Thank you in advance
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Re: feeling like im putting the cart before the horse
posted at 1/27/2012 4:16 PM EST
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In Response to feeling like im putting the cart before the horse:
Hello all! We got engaged on 1/7/12 we are still discussing dates and a big factor in that discussions is how much money we need to save, but we need to make some decisions on preferred venues and number of people and i am just having a hard time with that, any suggestions? i need help but am concerned about hiring a wedding planner A i don't think we could afford it B i am not sure how if that will make it more enjoyable or less, any ideas suggestions? Thank you in advance
Posted by juelmoore
Congrats and welcome!
The three biggest things are budget, guest list, and venue. Please make sure that your venue can fit your whole guest list.
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Re: feeling like im putting the cart before the horse
posted at 1/27/2012 5:25 PM EST
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I would make up two tentative guest lists -- one including everyone you would want to invite, and another including just the people you can't possibly get married without. Once you have that, you can start looking at venues to get ballpark figures of the cost for the large wedding and for the small wedding. A lot of your research can be done online. For example, I looked at some venues' websites and found, after some poking around, that this venue is too big or that venue won't let you bring your own caterer.
Many people find that the high cost of receptions will cause them to lean more toward the smaller wedding than the larger. So let's say your ideal guest list is 200 but your 'must-have' guest list is 80, and you decide to go with the 80. You could then visit venues and tell them that you're planning for 80-100 guests (just in case you've forgotten anyone). Use the same parameters when meeting with each venue -- your preferred date, guest list of 80-100, etc. so that you get comparable quotes from each.
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Re: feeling like im putting the cart before the horse
posted at 1/27/2012 5:34 PM EST
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You definitely don't need to hire a planner, especially if you're concerned about your budget. Most venues have someone to help make sure everything flows smoothly on the day of and for anything that doesn't come with your package they may be able to suggest other vendors like DJ/band, florist, bakery, etc. Once you see what's provided through your venue, you and your fiance can divide and conquer between the two of you to do your homework on other things, or get help from your mothers or anyone else willing to help you out.
I think there was a post a while back on the Budget board where some people said they preferred having the planner to handle everything and some people were happier that they took care of things themselves, I guess it just depends whether you like to delegate even if things don't end up getting done the way you would have done it (in which case you might be happy with a planner), or if you're the type who feels that the only way for things to be done right is to do it yourself (in which case you might be better off without a planner).
Good luck with everything :-)
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Re: feeling like im putting the cart before the horse
posted at 1/28/2012 12:59 PM EST
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Thank you all for your replys!
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Re: feeling like im putting the cart before the horse
posted at 1/28/2012 10:15 PM EST
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The knot has some great tools and checklists...that's what I mainly use
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Re: feeling like im putting the cart before the horse
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I agree with making the "want" vs " need" guest lists. My want/familial obligation list was well over 100 people, not including friends. My "wouldn't dream of getting married without them being there" list was 3.
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Re: feeling like im putting the cart before the horse
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I also agree on the want vs need list, there are a lot of ways to cut cost but the easiest and most effective will be cutting the guest list. As other people have suggested, go to venue's and get their prices of how much each plate is and is it all inclusive tax grat, open bar all that.
After you have done that sit down and crunch numbers and figure out if you want to have a full sit down meal, a cocktail hour, or just cake and punch.
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