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In Response to Waiting on the ring.....:
Confession: Let me start by saying I am 20pearls16 and this is my first time on this site. So hello everyone. I am totally obsessed with planning my wedding. I have already picked out a dress and decided on what kind of wedding I want etc etc.....However my boyfriend hasn't offically propssed yet. We bought a house and are living together with our children. He refers to me as his fiance' but the ring is still on layaway!!! I know it's coming, but I am really stating to get anxious. I even go visit the ring like I have supervised visitation or something. LOL. I don't want to say anything because I don't want him to feel like I am pressuring him and I don't want to know all the details because I do want to be surprised. He said if the ring I wanted was $500 he would have proposed last year lol. Ughhhhhhh what is a girl to do! Report Reply Quote Edit Private Message
Posted by 20pearls16
There is no hint here that your BF/FI/SO is involved in the planning. This is what people were responding to. They were worried that he did not know - since there is no hint in this post that he does know - and would be upset that you had planned his big day without him. I would certainly be upset if my FI did that to me.
Thank you for the clarification that he is involved. It sucks that you have to wait for the ring. We ordered ours custom and the designing and manufacture take a while, so I know how it feels to have to wait for the ring.
Have you thought about helping with the ring payments (if a possibility), so that you can get it sooner? Since you live together, your money is at least somewhat communal already, and it will continue to be at least somewhat communal after you get married. Why does it matter which bank account the money comes out of?
This might also help to clear up the question of whether he is your BF or FI. It sounds like you two need to talk about this and decide whether you consider yourselves engaged and, if not, when you will do so.
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