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Tiny wedding, should we register?
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Tiny wedding, should we register?
Should you register? (The answer is a collective “YES!”) Chat about when, where, and what to register for here.
Advice please! We're having a small ceremony on the beach with just our parents in attendance. We want to keep things simple and use our small budget to enjoy a week at the beach instead of having a r
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Tiny wedding, should we register?
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Advice please! We're having a small ceremony on the beach with just our parents in attendance. We want to keep things simple and use our small budget to enjoy a week at the beach instead of having a r
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Tiny wedding, should we register?
posted at 2/3/2012 5:07 PM EST
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Advice please! We're having a small ceremony on the beach with just our parents in attendance. We want to keep things simple and use our small budget to enjoy a week at the beach instead of having a reception. I'm not sure if we should register or even expect gifts since we aren't having a "formal" wedding and inviting all our friends and family. But, if people want to give us gifts, we'd like them to have some idea of things that would be useful to us.
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Re: Tiny wedding, should we register?
posted at 2/3/2012 8:17 PM EST
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I think it would be alright to create a small registry, but don't advertise it. That way, if someone asks you or your parents directly about gift options, you can direct them to it, but it doesn't look like you are gift hungry. People create "housewarming registries" so I think this should be alright.
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Re: Tiny wedding, should we register?
posted at 2/3/2012 8:26 PM EST
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Probably not helpful but I'm going to go the other way and say don't register. If I wanted to get you a gift and was directed to a registry I would probably think 'greedy' since you're having no guests. Rather - could you give your mom a small list of things you want and she can tell people about them? If I was told - "I know she's been eyeing a new coffee maker and they just got a King sized bed so I know they could use linens" - I wouldn't think greedy at all.
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Re: Tiny wedding, should we register?
posted at 2/3/2012 8:58 PM EST
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I think you should go ahead and register. I know this isn't particularly common, but I've definitely given gifts to friends of mine who were getting married with tiny weddings that I wasn't invited to. I always look for a registry even in that case and it's a relief to me to find one because I don't give cash, ever.
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Re: Tiny wedding, should we register?
posted at 2/4/2012 12:40 AM EST
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Register. It's not an etiquette breach. People who ask about the registry have already decided to get you a gift, and will appreciate knowing what you really want/need.
I disagree with registering for housewarmings. These used to be what they're supposed to be.....a party to show off a new home.
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Re: Tiny wedding, should we register?
posted at 2/4/2012 9:02 AM EST
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I'd register... ad then get the completion discont after the wedding :)
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Re: Tiny wedding, should we register?
posted at 2/4/2012 4:40 PM EST
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I disagree with registering for housewarmings. These used to be what they're supposed to be.....a party to show off a new home.
Posted by RetreadBride
Retread, I am not a fan of housewarming registering either. I was just trying to point out that if people register for a housewarming (even if it isn't the best etiquette), she should be able to register for her small wedding.
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Re: Tiny wedding, should we register?
posted at 2/5/2012 9:55 AM EST
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eh... my gut says don't register. I'm with ceh789 on this one... it would come off greedy to me.
If anyone really wants to give you something, they'll send a card and cash
it's nice you're having such an intimate ceremony, are you getting some nice photography and sending an announcement out afterwards?
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Re: Tiny wedding, should we register?
posted at 2/5/2012 12:42 PM EST
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Scogs, I agree that she can register if she wants to. It's not a faux pas to register for a wedding, since the information is only given out to those who ask. Anyone who asks has already decided to give the couple a gift anyway, although they know they aren't invited to the wedding.
Sure people register for housewarmings, but that's because the retail industry views them as another way to make money.
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Re: Tiny wedding, should we register?
posted at 2/7/2012 12:09 AM EST
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I am in the same predicament and decided to do a small registry because as it was pointed out to me - some people will want to send you a little something even if they're not at your wedding....and you might end up with a lot of picture frames ;-)
Actually, from a practical stand point, many registries let you buy your off your own registry at a 10-20% + discount! We picked out some small items and a couple of larger items that we intend on purchasing for ourselves to upgrade aging household items and get the discount :)
And remember, you typically have up to 1 year after the date of your wedding so you can purchase over time.
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Re: Tiny wedding, should we register?
posted at 2/11/2012 2:11 PM EST
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Thanks for all the advice everyone! And to answer the question yes we plan to have photos taken and send an announcement to the rest of family and friends :)
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