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Wedding shower Q!

posted at 2/10/2012 11:59 AM EST on theknot.com

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Hey Ladies

I need some advice about who to invite to my shower! I'm planning on inviting the 12 ladies I work with to the wedding but am unsure if i should invite them to the shower? I'm not super close with everyone but feel as though it's too small a company to invite some but not all. Is it tacky to not invite them to the shower (basically to keep number down) but invite to the wedding? I know it's taboo to do it the other way around but what about this?

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posted at 2/10/2012 12:19 PM EST on theknot.com

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Not everyone invited to the wedding needs to be invited to the shower. It would be nice, but not necessary. Ask the person who is throwing your shower how many they can afford. If that number doesn't fit your coworkers, then cut them out. If your not particularly closer to some than others, then don't include any of them for the shower.

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posted at 2/10/2012 12:54 PM EST on theknot.com

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Find out from your shower's host how many he/she can afford and start from there. If you get through your close friends & family and have room to include all of them, go ahead and add them to the list. If there's not enough room for all of them, leave them off.

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posted at 2/10/2012 8:42 PM EST on theknot.com

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You absolutely do not need to invite your coworkers to your shower! If they're not close friends, they'll honestly most likely be relieved that they don't have to attend (and purchase ANOTHER gift).

In some circles, every single female guest is invited to the shower, but this does NOT apply to all circles and there's certainly no need. Among the women I know, everyone tends to feel a little burdened by a shower invite for a bride with whom they're not very close.

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posted at 2/10/2012 9:49 PM EST on theknot.com

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Ask the shower hostess how many guests she is thinking of inviting.

Every wedding guest does not have to be invited to the shower, but every shower guest must be invited to the wedding.

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posted at 2/13/2012 1:41 AM EST on theknot.com

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I'm inviting all the ladies who are invited to the wedding depending on where they live. One shower is in the town I go to school so people around this area will go to that one then people from my hometown will go to that one

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posted at 2/13/2012 2:37 PM EST on theknot.com

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I will be inviting all the women that are invited to the wedding. I was only going to invite close friends and family but FI grandmother is putting on the shower and thinks all the women should be invited so that's what I'm going with.

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