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When we first started wedding planning, my H (then FI) told me that the only things he wanted to be involved in were the men's attire, the food & cake, and some of the music choices at the reception. He did give some input on the RB and FG outfits, too, which was his only stubborn moment throughout wedding planning, but I value his opinion and I didn't want the entire wedding to be from my perspective.No one can dictate to you what to do in your relationship; ultimately, it is you and your FI's choice on how to plan your wedding.
After talking with my mom, I think she's upset because Mike tends to go to his parents to ask their opinions, and they aren't paying for much of the wedding. His parents do happen to be VERY opinionated and pushy for the things THEY want. For example, we were perfectly happy with having a DJ. His parents wanted a band and Mike and I went back and forth a few times with them about how we didn't want a band to butcher certain songs and we wanted a lot of modern music, which we didn't think we'd get with a band, etc. Finally, they said "Well, we will pay for the band or DJ, which ever you choose. Oh, and btw, I contacted these two bands and they are sending music samples."Needless to say, we are having a band to the tune of $5,500+. But hey, I guess they got what they wanted and this particular band is pretty darn good.But honestly? I can think of A LOT of other places I could have put that money if they were willing to give it, but I guess you can't dictate where other people's money goes...