This is more just a vent post, although any advice would be great!
On Friday, we went around to the BM house so that my FI could hand over the list of people he wanted to invite to his Bachelor party, my FI didn't think he was getting one, so when the BM offered to host one, he was really happy about it, now I am not sure what is going to happen.
A little background information, the BM is a twin and a real joker, everything he says, you take with a grain of salt because he thinks everything is a big joke, his twin (a groomsman) is exactly the same, they are big drinkers and feed off each other. My FI has been best mates with these two for twenty years, so when he asked them to be in the BP, it was a no brainer.
Back to Friday night, no Bachelor Party arrangements were made, in fact, it was not even mentioned, instead, the Best Man was totally inappropriate the entire night, after a few drinks, the BM started asking why my FI wanted to marry me, as the night went on, he started explaining about his Best Man speech and how he had read it out to his wife (who told him he couldn't say what he planned to say because it was mean) by the end of the night my FI had had enough of it all and told him that we were not having speeches (which we are not) except for a thank you speech from myself and my FI. None of this really got me uspet, I thought it was all a bit of a joke untilthe BM started to referring to the wedding as an abortion, he started asking when the abortion was and how we would all be getting to the abortion, what he would eat at the abortion etc.
My FI got really upset and took the BM outside for a chat, after which, we left. My FI is so angry and offended by his best mate, he has no idea what has happened to his friend to make him act like this, his twin brother doesn't know what the problem is either and his wife was just a surprise as we were as it all unfolded.
My FI wants to kick the BM out of the WP (which meas the GM wont attend either), He no longer wants to be friends with this guy as we are both highly offended by what happened, as we both could not believe he was comparing our wedding day to killing a fetus.
Any advice of what I should do? Should I talk my FI out of kicking his BM out of the WP? I know it is a 'friendship ending move' but at this point, I don't think my FI cares. Should I stay out of it and let my FI make this choice?