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Do I need to get my MOH a gift if I paid for her dress?

posted at 2/10/2012 1:36 PM EST on theknot.com

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My best friend is going to be my matron of honor, but because her family is not in a financially stable place I offered to pay for her dress (~$160) so that she could be in the wedding. My question is, do I still get her a bridesmaids gift? I'm getting gifts for my other 2 BMs who are my FSIL, and I will get them all mani-pedi's with me. Would it be considered bad taste to count my buying her dress as her gift? I even let her pick the dresses so she would wear something she likes. I don't want to offend her if she expects a present.

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In Response to Do I need to get my MOH a gift if I paid for her dress?:

My best friend is going to be my matron of honor, but because her family is not in a financially stable place I offered to pay for her dress (~$160) so that she could be in the wedding. My question is, do I still get her a bridesmaids gift? I'm getting gifts for my other 2 BMs who are my FSIL, and I will get them all mani-pedi's with me. Would it be considered bad taste to count my buying her dress as her gift? I even let her pick the dresses so she would wear something she likes. I don't want to offend her if she expects a present.
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Yes, it would be in poor taste IMO. I would still get her a gift, but that's just me.

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posted at 2/10/2012 1:51 PM EST on theknot.com

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While it would be uber tacky for her to expect a gift, I agree with PP that you need to get her something nonwedding related as a thank-you. A gift to you BMs should have nothing to do with your wedding and all to do with them.

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I would still get a gift, but again thats just me, and it would stave off potential humiliation:

"So, we wanted to present gifts to all our BMs, for being so awesome. Thanks so much guys! Here Emily! Here Sophie!" <MOH standing behind them...awkward silence />.

I just don't see it as being fair, you know? It doesn't have to be a huge gift by any means... a token is fine.

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posted at 2/10/2012 2:12 PM EST on theknot.com

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Yes it would be nice to give her something. It can be thoughtful without being expensive. I was my matron of honor's maid of honor. I still had a picture of the two of us from her wedding. I bought a photo frame, had a mat cut with two openings, had the picture copied, and got scrapbook numbers where I put her wedding date by the photo from her wedding and my wedding date by the opening for the other photo, where I used a piece of paper that read "IOU one photo" as a place holder until photos from my wedding are available. I got the frame cheap at TJ Maxx so the whole thing cost less than $20. The same kind of idea might also work for a childhood photo and photo from the present day, or you wouldn't have to add the dates if that would be too cutesy for her taste.

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posted at 2/10/2012 2:22 PM EST on theknot.com

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I would get her something, but you don't need to go nuts.

And if the gifts will be an obvious difference in price, then I would give it to each girl privately.

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posted at 2/10/2012 3:31 PM EST on theknot.com

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Yes, I'd say to still get her a gift. The dress in itself, while generous, isn't really a gift to her; it is you doing what you can so that she can be there wearing the right attire. There isn't anything wrong with that, it just isn't a present to her. I think that I would be really hurt if all of the other girls in the group had a fun spa day on you and I was discluded.

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posted at 2/11/2012 12:17 AM EST on theknot.com

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Anything that is for the wedding is typically not considered a gift.

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posted at 2/11/2012 10:12 AM EST on theknot.com

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I'd get her something small. Anything wedding-related is for the wedding, and not a real treat for them.

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