Let me start off by saying I'm the type of person that hates to hurt feelings and I really care how other people feel and react to situations, and yes even though this is my wedding and I should do what I want I still want to lookout for other people and how they feel. That being said, i'm having a difficult time deciding whether I want just family in the bridal party or if I want to include friends?
I don't want to go over 6 bridesmaid and with having my first pick of bridemaids (being family) I am at 4. The two friends I would choose are currently girlfriends of 2 of the groomsman and have been my close friends for years now. The only downside is there is one of my other friends (and soon to be cousin-in-law) whos husband is the best man and her son is the ring bearer, but she would be 7 and like I said I only want 6 tops, plus I feel I would only be including her to not hurt her feelings. We used to be best friends but drifted apart last year, we still hang out and see each other but not as best friends might do.
But Im afraid around the time we were close I told her if I ever got married to him ( my current fiance) she would be in the bridal party. I dont want her to hold it against me that I said that in the past or cause any drama if I end up choosing my close friends to be in the bridal party and not her but at the same time I dont want to hurt her feelings at all. Is there another role I could put her in so she felt included? Or do I just let things go the way they are and see what happens?
But the REAL question is do I take the risk and choose to make it 6 with friends or play it safe with family at 4?!