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First: 1/28/2012
Last: 4/14/2012
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I will try to make this story short and sweet.
I chose to have a high school friend as a BM for my wedding 8/3/12- we'll call her K here. I knew that K has a large medical history as she's been dealing with these issues since high school. I asked K's father if he thought she would be strong enough to be with me on my wedding day and he sneered that I needed to check with her. (I asked in a respectful way..I'm an RN and just wanted his opinion as I respect her health issues) I finally asked her and she sounded excited to be part of it.
I started making it clear to my BM's in Nov '11 that I wanted to order the dresses in Jan '12. I wanted to make it a fun day- get everyone who was local together, make a decision on dresses and have a fun lil luncheon after. K all of a sudden, second week of dec, told me that she'll be gone all of jan '12 through the first week of feb '12. So I held off until end of feb because K made it clear that she REALLY REALLY wanted to be there on that day, and she gave me a time frame that AFTER feb. 10th that she could make the trip to the town I live.
Another BM lives in the same town that K does, and BM has offered to give K a ride to where to store is in my town. Now, I have already booked an appt on 2/25, and now K states that she just doesnt think that she can make a day of 6 1/2 hours worth of driving d/t to her pain issues.
Here's the kicker.....that 5 week period that K was gone was for a trip to HAWAII.....I've been to Hawaii--and it's a long LONG flight...
So, I'm a bit put off that she originally told me she really wanted to be with me and my girls, told me a date that she could do it after, and now she's backing down from being there- I arranged everything around her. BUT she can do a 9 hour day of travel to and from hawaii? But cant sit in a car for 3 hours one way, after she made it clear she wanted to do this?
I dont know if i can kick her out-- BUT MY CONCERNS ARE: 1. where i'm having my wedding requires walking, taking a ski lift up to the site and generally being social for that 5 hour time frame of the party... 2. photos require a couple of hours, and i was hoping to get ready with everyone before hand too....
My wedding day makes for a good 12 hour day that I'd like to be with my BMs and friends....and I dont know that she can handle this.....
I'm kicking my own butt asking her as I knew of her pain issues, but I feel she should be honest with me on how she'll do for the big day....I feel like I cant rely on her....
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