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hi so i just got engaged n i was really exited up til now cuz my so called friends bridesmades suck. they said they wanted 2 b in it n r exited n stuff but now they wont pay for the dresses cuz they said they dont like them n r expensive. they also wont do like other stuff like lern the dance i want n do the crafts n stuff for me n the cake. im like y say u will be bridesmade? u do no its a "brides made" for a reson lol. but so like what do i say 2 make them do stuff?

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posted at 2/7/2012 8:17 PM EST on theknot.com

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You need to use your big girl words here.

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posted at 2/7/2012 8:21 PM EST on theknot.com

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Attempting to read this post made my eyes hurt. Write like an adult and we will be happy to offer you advice as one.

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posted at 2/7/2012 8:23 PM EST on theknot.com

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hi so i just got engaged n i was really exited up til now cuz my so called friends bridesmades suck. they said they wanted 2 b in it n r exited n stuff but now they wont pay for the dresses cuz they said they dont like them n r expensive. they also wont do like other stuff like lern the dance i want n do the crafts n stuff for me n the cake. im like y say u will be bridesmade? u do no its a "brides made" for a reson lol. but so like what do i say 2 make them do stuff?
Posted by Soon2bD2014

Please refrain from "txt spk" here as it makes your posts very hard to read. Full sentences and appropriate spelling & punctuation are your friend.

1) You should ask for their budget BEFORE looking at any dresses. And it should be in private and individually... then you take the LOWEST budget and shop within that price range. Or, you can give them parameters (color, length, fabric, certain store) and let them choose their own style.

2) The only "duty" a BM has is to show up sober, on-time in the correct dress (with budget discussed before it was picked out) and smile for photos. If they OFFER to help you with any crafts, that's their choice - but you cannot force them to do anything. Same for learning a dance - some people just don't like to dance or are uncomfortable being the center of attention. Check with your venue/caterer on the cake - your FRIENDS are not responsible for that. You are not paying them, therefore they do not have to WORK for you.

3) Bridesmaids (it's not Bridesmade) are NOT your unpaid labor or betches. They are supposed to be your nearest and dearest friends, and the position of Bridesmaid is supposed to be an honor for THEM.

4) You don't say anything. No one will ever be as excited for your wedding as you are.

All that said, I'm going to call MUD on this, however. (Joined today, effort made to make post incredibly unreadable, and wanting BMs to learn to dance, do crafts, and otherwise be bride's biatch...)

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posted at 2/7/2012 8:26 PM EST on theknot.com

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This is just all wrong. I'm not going to touch on spelling or grammer; someone else will cover this, I'm sure.

You may not control your bridesMAIDS! They set their budget for the dress, or you may purchase it for them based on your own budget. They may help with crafts if they would like, but they certainly don't have to. Also, they definitely do not have to learn a dance or bake you a cake. They are not literally your maids unless you've hired them for that position and are paying accordingly, which frankly, you might just have to do if you're really this demanding.

Oh, and your wedding is 12/20/2014. Don't even say the word "wedding" to them again for at least 2 more years!

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posted at 2/7/2012 8:44 PM EST on theknot.com

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If this is real, you need a reality check.

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posted at 2/7/2012 9:00 PM EST on theknot.com

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I got as far as "cuz my so called friends bridesmaids suck"
How old are you? You sound like a teenager.
You don't control other people. You ask for your friends budget before you select a dress without their input. They shouldn't need to learn a dance for you. They don't have to do crafts for you. They are bridesmaids, not personal slaves.
A bridesmaid's duty is to show up at the wedding on time, dressed in the appropriate dress, stand next to you as you say your vows, and smile for pictures. That is all.
If you are treating your dearest friends like this, you won't have to worry about them for much longer. They will cross you off their friends list, and decline the honor of being your wedding attendants. Apologize to them immediately!

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posted at 2/7/2012 9:21 PM EST on theknot.com

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ok i just asked 4 advise not 2 b picked on. i can type how i want its a free country n what do u mean if this is real?

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posted at 2/7/2012 9:32 PM EST on theknot.com

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ok i just asked 4 advise not 2 b picked on. i can type how i want its a free country n what do u mean if this is real?
Posted by Soon2bD2014

It's a free country so that means we can call you out on your crappy typing all we want. Don't be a hypocrite.

People are asking if this is real because your post is so ridiculous, it's as though someone made it up for sh!ts and giggles. You type like a 12 year old who hates her English teacher. You refer to your friends as maids. And you confused the words made and maid. Your post is just too absurd to be real. If you admitted to being a troll, I wouldn't be surprised at all. At all.

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posted at 2/7/2012 9:37 PM EST on theknot.com

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If they suck why are they your bridesmaids?

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posted at 2/7/2012 9:52 PM EST on theknot.com

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This isn't real. It can't be.

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posted at 2/7/2012 10:01 PM EST on theknot.com

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I'm sorry, I only read English.

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It might be a free country, but this board has rules. Textspeak is considered lazy, rude and childish here. This is a community of adults.

I think this is a made-up post. In case it isn't...

Your bio says your wedding is in 2014. It is waaaaay too early to look at bridesmaids' dresses. Think about it. They'll be shelling out NOW for a dress that will just hang in their closets for YEARS. They can gain weight, lose weight, and have several children in that time.

Your bridesmaids are not free labor. Get your fiance to help you if you need assistance with wedding planning and work. The two of you are getting married, not you and your bridesmaids.

You can make your children (when/if you have them) do chores for you. You cannot "make" adults.

They are not being bad friends. You are.

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Re: need help getting control of my bridesmades

posted at 2/8/2012 12:49 AM EST on theknot.com

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You want advise? Go bck 2 skool.

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Also, we aren't picking on you. We're giving you the advice you sorely need. You want friends after your wedding two years from now? Give them a fukking break and let them do what they want. Seriously, why are you even doing things for a wedding so far in the future? That's why I feel you're making this up. You're worrying about your cake NOW?! Your bridesmaids aren't required to make your cake, where did you hear that? What "crafts" could you possibly be doing this far in advance? You will probably change your mind three dozen times before then. I changed my colour scheme four times, and that was only in a three month period. Hold your horses. I get being engaged as being exciting, and I certainly get the "can't hardly wait" feeling, but you can't honestly believe strangers will take you seriously if your wedding is two years in the future and you're already talking about bridesmaids dresses and cakes and crafts. Imagine TWO YEARS of being nagged by your friend to throw you parties and make you things and bake you a cake. You want to control your bridesmaids? Get some puppets and put on a wedding puppet show. Once you do that, and the "control" idea is out of your head, reevaluate how you've been behaving/thinking. If you have seriously been demanding these things already, you owe your friends (not maids) an apology.

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posted at 2/8/2012 3:14 AM EST on theknot.com

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Uhm. WOW. It's one thing to use abbreviations for certain things, but to talk like you're still in middle school is another.

You absolutely cannot just "make your bridesmaids do stuff". They are not your personal slaves. All they have to do is get the dress, and show up on time, sober. Nothing more.

I agree with Retread, your wedding is in 2014. It is WAY too early to even be choosing your wedding party, let alone having them order their dress! I'm getting married in 2014, and I have not asked anyone to be in my wedding party, because I know that I am going to have different people come in and out of my life in the next couple of years. You really shouldn't do that until a year out, at the most. While, yes, I've browsed bridesmaids dresses to get a feel of what I want, I am not planning on choosing a dress until much later. Tons of new styles and colors are going to come out in the next few seasons, and I'm probably going to find a bunch of different dresses that I like more than the one I liked before. I strongly advise you do the same.

Nobody has picked on you. You're talking like a child, and it is not condoned on this website.

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posted at 2/8/2012 3:27 AM EST on theknot.com

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Sorry, we can't give you "advise" lol when we can't read what you are trying to get across to us. Where the *#*# did you learn the English language!?

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I don't think you should be allowed to be exited about your bridesmades if you can't even spell those words correctly lol! Oy Vey.

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posted at 2/8/2012 5:23 AM EST on theknot.com

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As I was reading this I started reading it in a "Baltimore" voice. I look to see where they are from... None other then Baltimore.

That being said, ditto PP.

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ok i just asked 4 advise not 2 b picked on. i can type how i want its a free country n what do u mean if this is real?
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You don't have a job, do you?

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As I was reading this I started reading it in a "Baltimore" voice. I look to see where they are from... None other then Baltimore. That being said, ditto PP.
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Hahaha...good ole Balmore at its best hon!

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posted at 2/8/2012 9:12 AM EST on theknot.com

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They won't learn the dance you want? WTF?

I'm actually pretty sure this isn't made up, but the OP has some serious entitlement issues.

Your bridesmaids are not your slaves. They are your friends. You don't get to use them for slave labor. You don't get to force them to dance. You don't get to make them buy dresses they can't afford.

Here is what you say to them:

"I'm really sorry that I've been a terrible friend who thinks that getting married entitles me to free slave labor from you. I got carried away; it won't happen again."

Here is the next thing you say:

"How much do you think you can budget for a bridesmaid dress? And do you have any color or design preferences?"

Then you give them the date and time of your wedding (and your rehearsal), and any information about dress fittings etc. You may also invite them to other events, like cake tastings, or dress shopping for you. They may or may not come, depending on whether they are interested and have free time.

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Re: need help getting control of my bridesmades

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holy hell in a handbasket, if this is not MUD from the worst educated troll on the planet then I fear for humanity.

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Hire some actresses. Then you have complete control.

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Fake. Date joined = yesterday.

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I can't believe that this is real. If it is.....oh Dear God.

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so cuz i wrote it yesterday its fake? im just tryin 2 get advise but u keep bein bitches so w/e

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In Response to Re: need help getting control of my bridesmades:

so cuz i wrote it yesterday its fake? im just tryin 2 get advise but u keep bein bitches so w/e
Posted by Soon2bD2014

No one is calling you names, so don't call us names. And we're giving you "advice" you just don't want to hear what we're saying.

ETA: Trolls (ie. people who like to make up drama (MUD) to get attention) often create an account and immediately post something ridiculous. It's a telltale sign. That, combined with your strange sense of timing and the fact your spelling and grammar are so bad make us believe you're not real.

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so cuz i wrote it yesterday its fake? im just tryin 2 get advise but u keep bein bitches so w/e
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Really? You're trying to get advice? Because it looks to me like you're either a troll trying to start drama, or you're seeking validation for your abhorrent behavior. If you're looking for the latter, you won't find it here,

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