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hi i have a question.... we are wanting to do dances for the groomsman and bridesmaid, he wants the guys to do im sexy and i know it.... as a dance and im having a hard time with my girls cuz some dont want this kind of music and others want another kind of music... how do i make all of them happy... i want a song that reflects me but also to make them happy?

also my color is pink... my bridesmaid dresses are hot pink. I have a couple guys very unwilling to wear pink. What do I do?

Also doing the line up i have and uneven number 9 girls and 8 guys, how do i get them to walk down the aisle? also my shortest girl is my sister from one side of the family and the shortest guy is my brother from the other side of the family different mother, it was a hard divorce how do i make that work? my dad doesnt even wanna be in the same room as them he has even said to me that he will not invite certain family if i invite my mom. Also i am worried my mom will embarrass me, by saying something cuz my dad left her for a younger woman (they were already seperated when they met) also my younger sister didnt invite our mom to her wedding (they arent close) this is a huge stress, also one of our groomsman is dating a bridesmaid and is cheating on her..... not sure if she will find out or not but that is alot of drama... and im not sure what to do

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Please rethink the dances. Your audience doesn't want to sit through that, even if all of your bridesmaids and groomsmen actually want to do it.

Put your guys in a different color than pink. Don't you have some kind of accent color?

You don't have to match your BMs and GM by height. You can have them all walk separately, have the guys already standing up with your FI, or one lucky guy can walk 2 ladies, you have a ton of choices for that.

I can't tell you how to deal with your mom and dad, you're going to have to figure that one out yourself.

Don't get involved in your BM/GM's relationship.

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hi i have a question.... we are wanting to do dances for the groomsman and bridesmaid, he wants the guys to do im sexy and i know it.... as a dance and im having a hard time with my girls cuz some dont want this kind of music and others want another kind of music... how do i make all of them happy... i want a song that reflects me but also to make them happy? also my color is pink... my bridesmaid dresses are hot pink. I have a couple guys very unwilling to wear pink. What do I do? Also doing the line up i have and uneven number 9 girls and 8 guys, how do i get them to walk down the aisle? also my shortest girl is my sister from one side of the family and the shortest guy is my brother from the other side of the family different mother, it was a hard divorce how do i make that work? my dad doesnt even wanna be in the same room as them he has even said to me that he will not invite certain family if i invite my mom. Also i am worried my mom will embarrass me, by saying something cuz my dad left her for a younger woman (they were already seperated when they met) also my younger sister didnt invite our mom to her wedding (they arent close) this is a huge stress, also one of our groomsman is dating a bridesmaid and is cheating on her..... not sure if she will find out or not but that is alot of drama... and im not sure what to do
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Having said all that, this is a lot of random drama thrown together and I wonder if it's MUD.

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posted at 2/8/2012 2:29 AM EST on theknot.com

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Are your men wearing tuxedos? The tuxedos should be black, the shirts white, and the ties and vests black. They can wear pink carnation boutonnieres. Of course the men don't want to wear pink

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So. Many. Questions.

1. Don't do dances. This will bore your guests. They want to get to dancing and having a good time. If they wanted to watch people dance, they would have gone to the ballet, not a wedding.

2. If they don't want to wear pink, have them wear a different color, like a neutral color. Black or silver would go nicely.

3. You don't have to have even sides. There are many solutions to this. Have each person walk down individually, alternate gals and guys walking down individually, have one guy walk with two girls (or visa versa).

4. Tell your family to act like adults, it's your wedding and you would like all of them to be there to celebrate with you.

5. Your BM and GM don't have to be dating to be in your wedding party. I get that it'll be awkward for them, but you can't really kick them out now. Don't get involved, it's not your relationship.

I agree, this might be MUD, but I thought I'd answer the questions anyway.

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1. Please don't do wedding party dances. Too many spotlight dances are very boring for your guests and sucks for the wedding party.

2. It's not prom, you don't have to match. Have the girls in hot pink and put the boys in a neutral like black or silver. I hate matching bridal parties with the vests. It feels so dated and high school. Having the boys in a neutral will look more modern and more mature.

3. Alternate or have one guy walk with two girls. Easy peasy.

4. Your family is adults and can behave like that. Expect them to and if they don't, it will look bad on them, not you.

5. Stay out of the relationship. It's not your place to let the girl know he's cheating on her, but I know it puts you in an awkward position. But for now, I'd distance myself from it entirely. You can't remove or replace them so just keep going forward with your wedding and keep their relationship out of your wedding.

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Everything already stated.

Don't group people by height. It's very demeaning. Ask the short person who always has to bring up the rear.

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I don't think there is anything wrong with doing dances.. especially if it's funny. I think it's a good idea, and I think the guests will be entertained and it can get the party going if they start pulling women up to dance at the end of their skit.. If you girls can't figure something out, skip it.. Just let the men do it, it's more original. Takes off some stress on you too, not having to rehearse.

I hope you don't mean you are trying to make your guys wear pink suits. That would be ridiculous. But you probably mean tie or vests or something. I've seen it done, but you gotta choose a decent color pink that looks ok on a guy. Hot pink probably isn't it. The pink boutonniere is a good idea.. but not carnations yuck. How about pink calla lilies?

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The guests really won't be entertained. They'll be bored. As I stated before, people don't go to a wedding reception to watch the wedding party dance. It's bad enough for guests to have to sit through the first dance, and father/daughter dance, and you want to make them sit through more dances? Sorry, they'll be bored. And dragging females out onto the dance floor might make some people uncomfortable.

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you guys are such stiffs. really..

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you guys are such stiffs. really..
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Because we are saying that the guests will be bored watching and not dancing? Hm, alright.

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The wedding party dance is a puppet show for the sake of a photo opp - and it's a meaningless photo opp. You'll look at your wedding album in twenty years, and see the strained smiles on their faces.

How would YOU feel if your friend said, "I want a picture, so you will do a dance with a partner I will choose for you, because I say so." Is that a nice way to treat a friend?

Having the wedding party pull guests out of their seats and make THEM dance is a Very. Bad. Idea.

Guests don't want to sit and watch Jill and Bob dance. What's fun about that for them? Jill and Bob mean nothing to them.

Please re-think this. What purpose does it serve? Is it likely to be fun for the people involved?

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what does MUD mean?????

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if i would put them gm in different colors what would it be the dads are in silver and the ushers are in black. my color is pink black and white

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thank you for answering I appreciate it!!!

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thank you so much for your post.... on my friend she just came to me with more drama, she has just cheated... i didnt say anything about him cheating i just was there for my friend in a time she needed me and I have desided not to let this affect the wedding planning!!!!

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thank you for your post.... it would be a pink vest with a black tie...... im still mixed on the guys so many opinons... gm cant be in black b/c thats what the ushers are in... they cant be in silver cuz thats what the dads are in...... im still distressed on this.....

since there is so many people against our dance weve kinda changed it... he wants to do something fun still though

for our first dance since we actully never danced to a slow song in our 7 years together weve deside to do something fun. start off with a slow song and in it, it changes to saftey dance where we get all our bridal party involved and then it changes to im sexy and i know it... since he really wants that.... and its still entertaining and its not that long then :) What does everyone think of that instead? it will be like 5-7 minutes not even

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the purpose is we are a fun couple and not traditional at all, so we want our reception to have a fun atmospher.... I AM NOT MAKING MY BRIDAL PARTY DANCE IF THEY DONT WANT TO!!!!!

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