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In Response to Re: What are the "duties"?:
Agh! I hate when people get defensive and start saying, the only duty is for the to show up in the dress! I'm sorry but I've been in weddings and that isn't the only thing. Of course my girls are throwing me bridal showers and we are all going to Miami for my bachelorette party! Also the other things..going to look at bridal gowns, etc. I guess there is no rule book but I would be upset if they didn't do those things and I know for a fact, they would all feel the same way for their weddings!
Posted by pinkrn19
First, no one is getting defense. It's called stating the facts.
Second, all of the things you mentioned are CUSTOMARY of BMs, sure, but not REQUIRED. Do I do them when I am a BM? Of course. Some people cannot afford to do those things, though they would love to, or cannot because of work, travel, distance, kids, etc. So if you would honestly get upset because your BMs couldn't afford to throw you a shower, then you would be a bad friend. Sorry, but you sound extremely entitled in your post.
I may not be able to afford to go to a bachelorette party because it is 7 hours away (same place as wedding) and it's the weekend before the wedding. I would love to and I'm going to try, but my friend understands that that is a lot of driving, gas, and miles on my car, not to mention money, so as long as I'm at the wedding, she's fine. On the same token, she is a BM in my wedding, and she may not be able to attend the shower here in Atlanta or make it in time for my rehearsal dinner because of her college classes, but I understand. Why? Because we are friends. Friends understand that other people have lives and don't just drop everything they are doing because someone else is getting married.
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