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In Response to Re: What constitutes a real problem with a Party Member?:
In Response to Re: What constitutes a real problem with a Party Member? : 100% agree. If a friend does something to you that is so horrible that you can't stand to be in a relationship any longer, then that is a huge problem. What that "something" would be is left to each individual. It could be stealing or other criminal activity, hitting on your man, being unsupportive of your relationship, whatever. I think that the only other problem would be not getting her dress. That removes the girl from the WP. I do think that friends should be able to talk through those things, but the other items, like not throwing parties, not coming to bridal shows, etc. should not be that big of a deal.
Posted by graysquirrel
Totally agree, but what about a BM who waits to the last minute and technically does order the dress, but it is due to come in the week of the wedding? What if it doesn't fit or doesn't even come in on time?
This was a debate on my month board earlier this week. Several people attacked the OP for being a brat, and I do think it's the nice thing to do to let her go get another dress in a neutral color just in case, but I kind of get why she is upset.
It seemed (from OP) that the BM simply got lazy and put off ordering the dress. She had no hardship or budget issues. My own MOH was somewhat like this and I wound up ordering the dress for her so it would get done (she reimbursed me 4 days later and no she was not waiting on a paycheck, so clearly money wasn't the issue there either).
I told those jumping all over her that getting the dress is the one major obligation besides showing up, so I get why OP felt like BM put her obligation/OPs wedding on the backburner. Obviously if she had been biitching about the BMs not ordering 11 months out or something, different story.
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