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Who to Choose?

LinznJesseLinznJesse
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I have such a dilemma! I just got engaged.. and having a hard time chosing bridesmaids.its stressing me out!!! I have 4 sisters, one is going to be the maid of honor.. one of them I haven't talked to in 4 years but will still be invited... and the other two are twins and older 13 yrs older then me. But the thing is if I have 3 I feel bad not having the sister I dont talk too.. grrr.. I also have A LOT of Friends.. a lot.. and i feel like if i have a couple friends and not my sisters they would be upset. SO i am down to a maid of honor and thats it.. will i look dumb with one person in my wedding party?
does anyone have any ideas??

thanks!!!!!!
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Re: Who to Choose?

  • RaptorSLHRaptorSLH member
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    edited December 2011
    One person wedding parties are just fine.  So are large parties, if you can afford them.  Even no party is acceptable - it's what works for you.  Also, if you are not equally close to all your sisters, you do not have to give them all equal positions - "guest" is an honor, too.

    You can have just the MOH sister.  You can have the MOH sister and friends.  You can have 3 sisters and friends.  You can have 3 sisters and no friends.  I would caution against including the 4th sister, though, because I presume that prolonged silence between such close relatives implies past drama...and people won't change who they are for your wedding.  Trying to "unask" her after the fact if things don't work out would cause way worse drama than not including her in the first place.  If you haven't spoken in years, she shouldn't expect to be in your wedding party, and neither should anyone else.  Do yourself a favor and stand by that.
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  • graysquirrelgraysquirrel member
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    I agree with Raptor. Do not feel like if you include one or some family members that you need to include all of them. Ask the people you are closest to and have a good feeling about. If that means you only have your MOH, then that is just fine. I think that WPs should be about who you are closest to and have a great relationship with, not filling spots out of obligation.
     
    I doubt your sister will feel bad if you have no relationship, but if she does then she can start repairing it with you. And if you have not spoken with her in years, coorindating even simple things with her might be really hard and lead to all kinds of trouble.

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  • rebarobert2012rebarobert2012
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    Just because you are including one sister doesn't mean you have to include all of them, especially if you are not close to the others.

    If you just got engaged, you probably have a while before your wedding.  I think it's wise not to pick your bridal party too early because sometimes people regret their choices down the road.
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  • Tomatillo821Tomatillo821
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    I would say to not rush in to it.  I've asked my MOH, but that's it.  Give yourself some time to jet enjoy being engaged and calm down a bit from being overwhelmed with wedding planning.  I think if you give yourself a bit of time to relax and think it over, you'll come to the right solution for you.
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  • LinznJesseLinznJesse
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    thank you everyone!!! I am just having my one sister as MOH!
    Thank u!
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