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Maid of Honor Toast
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My maid of honor has decided, 3 days before the wedding that she refuses to give a toast. It is only her and the best man that were going to toast. I feel like that may be a little awkward, but what c
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September 2010 Weddings
Maid of Honor Toast
Welcome! Share all of your wedding related plans, ideas, tips, vents, and thoughts.. September 2010 Knotties, this is your best resource for all things wedding related.
My maid of honor has decided, 3 days before the wedding that she refuses to give a toast. It is only her and the best man that were going to toast. I feel like that may be a little awkward, but what c
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Maid of Honor Toast
posted at 9/2/2010 6:06 PM EDT
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My maid of honor has decided, 3 days before the wedding that she refuses to give a toast. It is only her and the best man that were going to toast. I feel like that may be a little awkward, but what can I do?
I expressed to her, that it would be nice if she gave one, something short, stolen from the internet, whatever, but I understand if it's not okay.... I feel like an AW asking for a toast.
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Re: Maid of Honor Toast
posted at 9/2/2010 6:16 PM EDT
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I feel really uncomfortable asking people to make toasts, too. Are you, or your FI, addressing the guests? Maybe to make it more than just the Best Man, you could do that. If you're already doing that, and want something extra (and sort of from 'your side') you could ask your mom if she would like to say a few words (or a sibling, or your dad, or something). I think that it's a little awkward to push the issue since your MOH already said she doesn't want to do it, so I would just count her out.
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Re: Maid of Honor Toast
posted at 9/2/2010 6:31 PM EDT
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My MOH/sister is not giving a toast - she feels really uncomfortable doing it. BM is giving one and FI and I will probably get up and say a thank to everyone for coming.
Maybe instead of giving a toast at the actual wedding she could do one at the rehearsal - it's a little more intimate and she won't feel too much pressure. Just a thought.
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Re: Maid of Honor Toast
posted at 9/2/2010 7:21 PM EDT
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MOH and BM will toast and FI will stand up and give a thank you! They wanted to and I didn't care either way!
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Re: Maid of Honor Toast
posted at 9/2/2010 7:26 PM EDT
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We're doing toasts at the 20 person RD. The only person making a toast at my wedding is my father. MOH is petrified of public speaking, I doubt she'll even toast at the RD. But that's fine with me, I'd rather have her happy than stressing out.
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Re: Maid of Honor Toast
posted at 9/2/2010 8:38 PM EDT
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I only have BM doing a toast. No worries, most people don't like listening to people droning on for 20 minutes anyway!! 
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Re: Maid of Honor Toast
posted at 9/2/2010 8:44 PM EDT
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At the actual ceremony, I only have the Best Man giving a speech as well.
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Re: Maid of Honor Toast
posted at 9/2/2010 10:33 PM EDT
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Don't worry about it! It won't be a good speech if she's not comfortable. There don't have to be any speeches at all. I'm giving the only one at our reception, as far as I know. I'm not going to force our MOH or BM to do something they don't want to do.
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Re: Maid of Honor Toast
posted at 9/3/2010 8:21 AM EDT
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It's perfectly fine for only the best man to do a speech. One less thing to worry about!
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Re: Maid of Honor Toast
posted at 9/1/2011 1:32 AM EDT
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I know each of us would love for our maid of honor to give a perfectly crafted, impeccably delivered speech, but remember, public speaking is one of the biggest fears for most people even surpassing their own death ... yikes!
I agree that offering your MOH to give her speech at the smaller rehearsal dinner versus the larger wedding reception is a good alternative. Also, reassure your MOH that no one is expecting her to give the speech to end all speeches.
Most maids of honor just need to be told that something short and heartfelt will do the trick. "... something short, stolen from the internet ..." works perfectly. A decent little site that myself and a few of my friends have used is http://www.maidofhonortoast.us. The site has some basic tips and great resources for how to write a more than adequate maid of honor toast.
Good lucks with your maids of honor!
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