I have a bridesmaid that I have been friends with for a long time. She is also the Groom's sister. When I asked her to go dress shopping, she said she was strapped for cash. I then told her I would pay for it and she could pay me back, make payments, or she could just come look with us for ideas for when she had more money. She said she was paycheck to paycheck and just "couldn't find it in her budget." She declined all offers for help because she said she didn't want to stress of her owing me money. A few days later, I showed her a color swatch and she asked me if she could keep it to find another dress (I am only requiring that the material and color match, they are not wearing all the same dress) at a different store. I said yes, and told her a few stipulations. A few days later after thinking I was making a big mistake, letting someone pick out a dress when I'm not even there, I politely asked her to make sure it was returnable in case it didn't match. I have not heard anything from her since, and neither has my groom. This morning, she posted that she doesn't understand the mentality of spending thousand of dollars to get married because it is about the couple (I'm not sure if it was about me or if it is just my paranoia) The dress cost would be up to her, and the other girl's dresses were about 150. Am I being unreasonable? Or is she making things more difficult? How should I handle the situation? When she was the maid of honor in her other brother's wedding, she was late for the wedding, showed up with a hickey, and the bride threw her own bacheloretter party. I don't want to have confrontation because it is important to my groom and I that she stand up in the wedding. Help!