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I think we're cancelling it.

posted at 2/9/2012 12:48 PM EST on theknot.com

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We have a destination wedding weekend planned for Jackson Hole in 5 months. Lots of things are already paid for but I can get refunds. 95% of my guests would have to fly in.

My dad was given a few months to live. His cancer is spreading, showing up in new places that weren't there a few months ago, and the doctors cannot do any more chemo or surgeries.

I just don't think I can handle him dying and a wedding anywhere near each other. I don't think my mom and sisters could either. We are all kind of a mess already. I'm going to have to fly home a few times to see him as often as I can afford, plus for a funeral.

My sisters were very concerned about how it would all happen - attending my wedding, dealing with a death, trying to be happy when they won't be, and for my mom it was the furthest from her mind and she was thinking she wasn't going to fly out anyway. Dad didn't want anyone to rearrange stuff on account of him, but it is for the best.

The time frame he was given is less than 5 months. Sure doctors aren't always right but I cannot fathom putting on a wedding while dealing with grief.

My fiance and I are telling people that we're probably going to cancel. So far there has been MUCH relief. Although they are sad for us, people have been saying it sounds like the most logical thing to do. It is sad to give up all this planning, but I am not devastated about it or anything. Just kind of a bummer, and I think I will thank myself in the near future. This is my second marriage. The frist was a rushed, JOP wedding, no family, very uneventful, went back to work. I kind of thought it was time to have the dress, the ring, party, etc. But I'm not devastated, as long as FI and I make this wedding special even if it's us two.

So our backup plan is to go elope somewhere kick ass and make it our honeymoon. Not like spend the same we were going to spend on this wedding, but maybe $5k.

We're mountain people, but we're thinking of this fall perhaps. After some grieving and before Christmas is here. Hawaii was an option.

This looked totally awesome minus the helicopter, but that's more than the JH wedding. But something this awesome is what we're going for. http://sweetoccasionbanff.com/packag...re.heliski.php

We'd still consider going up to the cabins we already paid for. We can cancel 30 days prior and it's the same penalty if we cancelled now. SOme friends mentioned that they would still go out there and make it a personal vacation. We can all be in the same area, hang out, and still go rafting. Pending the family events and how I feel of course.

*sigh.*

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From the original post that most probably can't see:

"We have a destination wedding weekend planned for Jackson Hole in 5 months. Lots of things are already paid for but I can get refunds. 95% of my guests would have to fly in.

My dad was given a few months to live. His cancer is spreading, showing up in new places that weren't there a few months ago, and the doctors cannot do any more chemo or surgeries.

I just don't think I can handle him dying and a wedding anywhere near each other. I don't think my mom and sisters could either. We are all kind of a mess already. I'm going to have to fly home a few times to see him as often as I can afford, plus for a funeral.

My sisters were very concerned about how it would all happen - attending my wedding, dealing with a death, trying to be happy when they won't be, and for my mom it was the furthest from her mind and she was thinking she wasn't going to fly out anyway. Dad didn't want anyone to rearrange stuff on account of him, but it is for the best.

The time frame he was given is less than 5 months. Sure doctors aren't always right but I cannot fathom putting on a wedding while dealing with grief.

My fiance and I are telling people that we're probably going to cancel. So far there has been MUCH relief. Although they are sad for us, people have been saying it sounds like the most logical thing to do. It is sad to give up all this planning, but I am not devastated about it or anything. Just kind of a bummer, and I think I will thank myself in the near future. This is my second marriage. The frist was a rushed, JOP wedding, no family, very uneventful, went back to work. I kind of thought it was time to have the dress, the ring, party, etc. But I'm not devastated, as long as FI and I make this wedding special even if it's us two.

So our backup plan is to go elope somewhere kick ass and make it our honeymoon. Not like spend the same we were going to spend on this wedding, but maybe $5k.

We're mountain people, but we're thinking of this fall perhaps. After some grieving and before Christmas is here. Hawaii was an option.

This looked totally awesome minus the helicopter, but that's more than the JH wedding. But something this awesome is what we're going for. http://sweetoccasionbanff.com/packag...re.heliski.php

We'd still consider going up to the cabins we already paid for. We can cancel 30 days prior and it's the same penalty if we cancelled now. SOme friends mentioned that they would still go out there and make it a personal vacation. We can all be in the same area, hang out, and still go rafting. Pending the family events and how I feel of course.

*sigh.*"

I'm sorry to hear you are havng to go through all of this. It's gotta be really tough. I can understand why your would cancel.

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I am first sorry that your dad is sick. That is a hard pill to swallow. Do what is best for you.

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I'm so sorry your dad is sick and that you and your family are havig to struggle with this right now. You and your family will be in my thoughts. As far as the wedding goes I think if cancelling and eloping feels right to you and FI then that is what you should do. Good luck and please keep us posted!

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I am so, so sorry about your father. :( That's so hard.

Do what feels right to you, which it sounds like you have a good idea of what that will be.

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Oh my... I am so sorry to hear this!!! I'm sure you will do what is best. Your family will definitely be in my thoughts and prayers!

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I'm so sorry to hear. Your family will be in my thoughts. Seems like the right decision to make. Maybe you can get your money back if you explain the circumstances.

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I'm sad to hear that GIna. My thoughts are with you. I'm glad you'll get to spend more time with your Dad now though. That's the most important thing.

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Sending you a big internet hug ::hug:: you're in my thoughts. Could you put together a small reception real quick while your dad is still with you? I'm sure he would love to see his daughter in a wedding dress and would give him some wonderful memories. I'm sending you so much love and happy thoughts. We're here no matter what.

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A rushed wedding for his sake would not be a solution. My family wouldn't want to deal with that with all they have going on (they said so). No one would be happy and I personally would be bawling. I don't want to go that route. I can see how it's a nice guesture though.

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I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this right now. Your whole family is in my thoughts and prayers.

FWIW Banff is GORGEOUS :)

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posted at 2/9/2012 9:21 PM EST on theknot.com

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Oh yeah, we will have to elope somewhere gorgeous and Banff is on my list. I'm hauling the dress in where ever this will be, even if it's in a backpack to the top of a mountain. Ha!

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